Job is too stressful but I'm ambitious

[apprenticedj]

this is a big reason why I don't masturbate. If I masturbate more than once a day, or have sex / masturbate consecutive days i feel it at work. Sex more than 3 times a week is pushing it for me.

Have you seen The Wolf of Wall Street? Three times a week? Those are rookie numbers in this racket, you need to pump those up big time!

 

[apprenticedj]

AAAgent, does your career bring you happiness aside from the paycheck?

 

[backbreaker]

Have you seen The Wolf of Wall Street? Three times a week? Those are rookie numbers in this racket, you need to pump those up big time!

well it's different if you are doing coke lol. love that movie BTW lol

 

[cordoncordon]

So i've been at my job for about 3 months and am apparently the poster boy for all the new hires in my role. I'm in FX sales. since my role is new within the company, they decided to modle all the performance figures for everyone in the role after my performance figures. I've also been the only one to bring in new business and i brought in new business after 1.5 months. This all sounds great and my name is touted all over conference calls but i'm exhausted.

My job requires me to make 60-100 calls a day. Calls directly reflect performance since if i don't call enough companies, i won't have enough qualified prospects in my pipeline to close and turn into clients. I work hard and have always done so. The thing is i'm an introvert who can be an extrovert if need be. I'm not in sales because i'm good at it (i suck at schmoozing). I'm in sales because i work hard and can keep up high levels of energy for short periods of time. My old job was pretty stressfree being an account manager as they were all warm calls. For some reason, cold calls drain me.

I get home everyday to my gf and am exhausted. Most of the time i pass out right after dinner. The senior guys here make great money. 150-200 but many of them have white hair and they're not even 40 yet. I took this job to develop sales skills and i think i'm doing well but i took a 30k paycut for this job. I have potential interviews for account management positions that will pay me 90k, and now i'm debating what to do. Career wise, sales > account management so i think i'm making the right move developing these skills. Especially since this is one of the hardest sales industries to make it in. So many people get cut while i'm thriving.

Any older gents have an opinion on this? Apologies if things are a bit incoherent, i'm writing this on limited time.

I used to work 60 hour weeks and be fine (I would drink hard/party and work out as well). I'm now working 45 hour weeks and rarely ever go much over 45 hours but i'm exhausted (I still work out a bit, but alot less).

AAA

To me, if you are unhappy at your job and it is stressing you out to the degree that it is, I would look for something else. I am much like you. The thought of having to cold call people to make a sale makes me want to vomit. Doing something for a little less salary, but for a lot more enjoyment, is worth 10 x it's weight in cash. You don't want to be one of those guys with white hair by the time you are 40 do you?

 

[cordoncordon]

on a normal day I do the following

1 talk to 40-50 NEW clients
2. manage the 15-20 clients we have currently
3. manage my programmers/ graphic designers via skype
4. put together 2-3 proposals for clients


on top of that

1. I eat clean/ healthy everyday
2. I go to the gym Monday - Saturday
3. Once a week or so I hit up an NA meeting
4. I find time to practice my piano
5. I take my wife out to eat / entertain her and her friends a few nights a week
6. Have sex lol
7. Play with my son / watch TV with my son
8. What whatever TV shows interest me i.e Game of Thrones, Turn, etc.


on top of that I still find time to

9. Gamble Thursday / Sunday via Horse Racing
10. Bull**** on Sosuave just about daily



instead of poking at me, you should be curious as to how the **** can i do all this and still have energy. I have mastered time management. something you have not. something you will never do becuase you're too close minded and you're too busy picking at people who are trying to offer you advice. That's the difference between you and I. I could offer you insights on how to have energy everyday, how to be able to work and come home and have a kick ass social life, but your'e too close minded to listen. You're not a leader. You're a guy who wants to make money with no skill set.

I think if you bragged less in your posts and avoided turning every response into a personal story about you that somehow shows how great you are, your message would be better received. Because lots of times they are very good messages, they are just lost in your self-worship.

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear All,
Gentle on Back Breaker...Please...He is one amazing Guy,to "Walk with Kings but still to keep the common touch"is not for everyone I really appreciate his insights into Americas Poor underclass...This site would be poorer without him!

 

[AAAgent]

To me, if you are unhappy at your job and it is stressing you out to the degree that it is, I would look for something else. I am much like you. The thought of having to cold call people to make a sale makes me want to vomit. Doing something for a little less salary, but for a lot more enjoyment, is worth 10 x it's weight in cash. You don't want to be one of those guys with white hair by the time you are 40 do you?

@cordoncordon - I don't really hate cold calling, i definitely don't love it though but i understand it needs to be done. The issue is i already took a 30k paycut to take this job to develop skills i don't currently have. I've learned alot and am doing well, but for the amount of stress I accumulate throughout the day makes me too exhausted to do anything. Plus I go to the gym after work and come home and have to spend time with the gf. I definitely love being single as i used to have so much free time at home to just relax and work on my startup. So it's not like i took a paycut to do something enjoyable, i took a paycut to do something i feel like i have to. My gf is leaving for vacation for 10 days so i'll take some time to weigh out my options and enjoy the peace and quiet.


@apprenticedj - I don't work currently because i'm doing what i like, i work in order to develop skills that will make my life easier in the future. I never really think in terms of happiness, i think in terms of success and what I need to become successful (if i was great at math/science maybe I'd have different options but unfortunately i'm not).

 

[backbreaker]

the misses and i went at it pretty hard last night. she gets like that every once in a while where she just isn't gonna take no for an answer and i tried to explain to her i had a lot of stuff to do today. yeah it's 10:30 in the morning and i can already tell nothing is getting done today. i'm just out of it.


this is bro science like a mofo lol but your testosterone is your energy. you can use it for sex. you can use it to work. you can use it for a hobby. but you can't use it for all three. you can't **** everyday then have energy to work 10 hours a day and go to the gym. i mean i can do maintenance sex lol and work the next day usually but when we go at it like really hard i'm done the next day because i go to the gym in the morning.

 

[backbreaker]

I'll tell you something else that really helped me out alot that most people do not think about. Go get a full workup done from an allergy specialist. For the longest I was was just always tired. I Mean beat tired. I tried everything. Turns out I've developed an intolerance to eggs ,amd i was eating 6 a morning. I notice it now. the few times I do eat eggs for various reasons within 15 mins I want to go to sleep.


Learn what foods you need to stay away from to keep your peak energy so you can do what you need to do on a daily basis

 

[AAAgent]

Some personal issues came up early this week where my room mate who was about to sign a lease with me said due to financial issues that just came up, he can no longer move out. He told me to break my lease and find a replacement so we could move out and the day before he tells me he can't move, i find a replacement to move into my apartment and she just signed the lease. Since I don't have a room mate option, this put me in a bad position. I weighed out my options and decided to quit and move home and focus 100% on my startup for the next 6 months. If I fail, then i'll come back into the work force. That is one option.

My other option is Chicago. I was recruited by the Regional Sales manager in Chicago yesterday. He approached me a month ago but i told him I'd keep an open mind but i'd like to stay in New York. we were talking and he mentioned that option is always open. I told him if he was serious, i'd consider it. He came back to me later and said i'd keep my salary and he'd pay for all my moving expenses if i moved over. The chicago guys could apparently use someone with my drive and tenacity to pipe them up (chicago manager works from the NY sales office as he's wife is pregnant and he was just hired. He's moving to chicago next year). Cost of living is a lot less in Chicago so i could afford my own 1 bedroom in the city off my current salary.

I opted to move home and work on my startup until the end of the year. I've been structuring my entire career to position myself to run my own business so I'm going to do this now while i'm still young enough to bounce back and not have it result in a paycut. I have alot of support from stranger who hear what i'm trying to do, friends, and family. People want to invest and help (they have no clue how hard it is to start at company that needs to be scaled up in order to be successful). I don't think i would have moved for another 10k more honestly. New York is way better and it's not worth the headache i literally get for making 100 dials a day and not reaping the benefits myself.

My family owns a pretty popular club/private venue that hosts shows and famous artists in philadelphia. I'm currently in the process of hosting a fundraising show there. We plan to get 5-7 performers who would be willing to perform for free for marketing and to support my startup (it's a charity focused startup). The main performer we're trying to get on board is an Asian rapper with 6k followers on FB. My friends gf is also a professional violinist who plays with Han Zimmer and has performed on "The Tonight Show" and a few other local bands. Our venue is pretty popular so hopefully we'll get a good turn out of 500-1000 people.

 

[guru1000]

Entrepreneurism will be the most arduous task in your life. If you wish to succeed, get rid of Plan B; otherwise, you will fall back on it. Burn all bridges before you begin. "You win or you perish." Read the following:

http://patrickwanis.com/blog/burn-your-bridges/

I practice what I preach.

 

[AAAgent]

I just broke the news and was expecting to be walked out. One guy was cut 2 weeks ago and walked out. I was lucky enough to be allowed to work at home for same pay but I denied it (plan c). My boss wants to part on good terms and let me finish out my two weeks (i thought I was going to be the boot since i haven't hit the 3 month mark yet...it's next Monday).

 

[AAAgent]

Okay. My boss just pulled me into his office and said he'll promote me if i stay. He'll pay for my stuff to be put into storage and he'll even help me move personally........If I need to, i can even take a month off and come back and start my new promotion and take any open seat I want.....

We agreed I could think about this over the weekend.....

He said "I'm going to make it as hard as possible for you to leave."

feels like this is all coming from a movie.