"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Job Interviews

Flyer

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Interviews, I've had alot of these, so obviously my applications and skills are good enough to get me through the door.

However, once you're inside and meeting face to face.

How are you suppose to charm these sons of *****es whos standing between a man and his dreams?

I'm getting increasingly annoyed, my marks and work experience should stand me heads and shoulders above any competition. But still cant GET past the last stage.

What should I be doing in terms of body language, mirroring, leaning in?

Using story telling techniques may be entertaining and interesting, but i've ran out of time for them to ask all the questions. Should i keep it short and sharp? when they're looking for 'personable' people?

I need that job to get my apartment!

Any tips?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Bible_Belt

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The best interviews I ever had were the ones where the interviewer did most of the talking, especially talking about themself. Look on the interviewer's office desk and walls for photographs and momentos that tell you about them. Maybe they have a degree on the wall from a school whose sports team you follow. Or ask about their kids if they have pictures of them up. Get them talking about what they love, and this will make them more comfortable with you. Also do a little research about the background of the company before the interview.

And of course, smile and be positive. Never say anything bad about anyone at an interviewer. Even if your last employer screwed you over, never talk bad about them. Part of getting hired is making the interviewer think that you would be a positive person for their work environment.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Flyer said:
...I'm getting increasingly annoyed, my marks and work experience should stand me heads and shoulders above any competition. But still cant GET past the last stage....
When you're young you believe that your credentials are all that matters. In reality, the trump card to experience is "likability." Whether you want to accept it or not, people will hire you only if the like you.
 
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