She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
To get 25 tables a day youre gonna have to work all day or be busy as sh*t. Usually youll get more than $2 each tip. $50 a day for serving tables will piss you off cause youll be busting your ass for bad tips. Youre pay check wont be much cause of this little thing called taxes. 10 days...12 hrs each day...not gonna happen unless youre about to be living on the street. Im sure you would make decent money, but its not exactly how you think it is.Originally posted by Plain & Simple
i was thinking about the money kind of, i went to the interview and they are gonna pay me $7.75hr
on the other side ihop pays me $3.30hr plus tips, lets say that i do like 25 servings a day and each of them leave at least $2 thats $50 for the day in tips plus &3.30hr lets say i work 7hrs a day thats $23.10 plus the $50 of tips thats $73.10 i made in one day, that times 11days or 10 (lets go with 10) in 2 weeks would be $731 in 2 weeks .
On the other hand at jiffy lube i get $7.75hr working like 35hrs a week thats $542.50 in 2 weeks .
Thats why im going with ihop...
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.