"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Jealousy....

dcfball

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OK i met this chick 2 saturdays ago at a party...wed comes along we hang out, food, my place, sex. She seems really into me... answers on first ring always... etc...

Anyways sunday i was doing some homework and had my AIM up, apparently she had seen my screen name on my computer at my house and added me so she messaged me... no problem we chit chat...but i dont talk to much or say to much to her.

Anyways she puts up some away message... "two words. one name. mike somebody...-sigh-" I asked her about it and she just said some old crush from awhile ago... well for the record i know the dude, he is an ASU football player(we met at an ASU football party btw, no thing im playing for unlv next year) and a freshman, so how is that an old crush??? she just played it off but it kinda bugged me...then she had the audacity to IM me later complaining about how she just got mugged outside her friends house, and im sitting here wonderign why the **** she doesnt go talk to mike about it?

of course im macking other girls, so where is this jealousy coming from? is it warranted, maybe im becoming to suave minded for my own good.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Skel

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ya duno what the big deal is? SO she has another friend on the side or whatever, why should you care?
 

LostbutFound

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I dont know why you're jealous...you hit it, she always answers your calls right away...its possible shes just testing you...even if shes not, you should act like you dont care about it...just blow it off, you're gettin a$$ from her, thats most important...
 

Chemistry

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Really, don't talk to that girl you wanna be ****in tomorrow on AIM it's destructive... it might be a different culture in the US but I've NEVER checked a girl, nor been checked by a girl and asked for my AIM or MSN name, sure we do phone numbers that's it...

But really don't be jealous... you acting like this guy is better than you!!! Why would she want him anymore if she's had you now!!? Really, Mike is nobody, I'd only be concerned if she was AIMin you from that PC in Mike's bedroom but that's about it...
 

dcfball

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thanks guys!! after we were 'all done', we were looking up song lyrics online and listening to ludacris' whats your fantasy(started from bedroom talk while cuddling), so she saw my screen name on the little IM sign in thing and goes oh "...my screen.. ... nice"

i called her the next night at like 10:30 just to make sure everything was cool but not to chill and she says some crap about seeing me online but didnt message me.. dont know why but it kinda freaked me out =p

anyways she messaged me so i had to talk to her and add her.... i really dont like talking to girls on there, now i gotta be careful when i sign in and **** -_~
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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