BGC
Master Don Juan
Guys, I came to an insight just today on jealousy.
We can't show it. Ever.
Because why do we not bring a rose on the first date?
Why do we not say I love you first?
Why do we not tell her she's beautiful?
Because doing so REVEALS YOUR EXTREMELY HIGH INTEREST LEVEL.
As does a show of jealousy.
Here's an anecdote that I found astonishing.
Do you guys know who Cindy Margolis is?
She has a show on E! called "In Your Dreams." Basically, if you haven't seen the show, she's just about the hottest woman in the world. A flawless female specimen.
Well, she's married. To the owner of a restaurant chain in L.A. (Jerry's Deli).
And so when I heard this, I thought, How the hell do you keep a wife every clinically sane guy would just about give his left nut to be with?
And listen to his.
She was interviewed by a Maxim-like magazine based in L.A. (Bold Magazine).
And she said this...
Her husband sets her up on dates!
No shhit.
Because he owns restaurants, he knows celebrities, and he sets up dates for his wife with them.
For instance, he set up an hour of time for his wife and Brad Pitt to be alone together, as he knew that Bradd Pitt was coming to his restaurant and he asked this of Brad Pitt as a favor.
And when Cindy Margolis was asked about this, about the fact that her husband sets her up with other guys, you know what she said?
She was confused! She said it made her feel like she hadn't entirely won him over yet. It messed her up inside because her husband was so obviously not jealous.
And if you think about, what her husband did is the ONLY thing you could do to try to keep such a woman.
Because the bottom line is CHALLENGE. If she thinks she hasn't won you yet, she's NOT GOING TO BE INTERESTED IN OTHER GUYS. But the second she thinks she's won you, then I believe her interest will stray.
It's like what Doc Love says, for you to really own her heart, she MUST KNOW THAT YOU ARE PREPARED TO WALK AND NEVER LOOK BACK EVEN IF IT KILLS YOU.
So I think a show of jealousy is ABSOLUTELY THE WORST THING YOU CAN DO WITH A CHICK.
For those who read my previous post about my sit. with my girlfriend, I did a lot recently regarding her.
First, yesterday, on the phone, I said to her, "I don't think you're over your ex-boyfriend."
She said she was shocked.
Then I said, "I'm not comfortable being a relationship with you if he's still in your life. I want you to take some time and figure out if you will be prepared if he calls you to say, don't call again, and hang up."
Well she said right away that she would not do that. She would not hang up on him.
So then we started talking about what "in your life" means.
And she said she wouldn't meet him in person, and that she wouldn't call him, but if he called her she would talk to him.
Well we hung up, and I thought about it.
And I realized IT'S RIDICULOUS TO SET UP RULES SUCH AS YOU CAN'T MEET IN PERSON, YOU CAN'T CALL HIM, BUT HE CAN CALL YOU, ETC.
Because the BOTTOM LINE is, if there is a DESIRE in someone for someone else, you CANNOT CHANGE THAT DESIRE.
Parents have realized that there's no point in telling their kids who they can date. Because the kids won't listen.
And I realized there was no use in telling my girlfriend she couldn't talk to her ex-boyfriend, because if she WANTED TO, she would eventually.
So I called her up later and said, "Go ahead and talk to him. And if you want to see him, too, go ahead. I trust you, and I'm not going to tell you who you care about. To me, he's another guy friend. You know what I think about people in a relationship who keep friends of the opposite sex, but I can't make you do anything. So go ahead and see him if you want."
I believe this is the only way of dealing with such a situation.
That's not to say that I tell her you shouldn't tell her you don't mind at all if you do mind.
But I think you should just say, I can't make you do anything, so do what you want.
BUT SHE MUST KNOW THAT IF SHE DOES IT, SHE WILL INCUR YOUR DISPLEASURE.
Same holds true with a girlfriend's guy friends. Obviously, you don't want your girlfriend to keep guy friends. But DEMANDING she cut them out of her life won't work. So you say, go ahead, see them if you want, but you also convey to her that it will not make you happy.
So the bottom line is, I think we must avoid a show of jealousy at all costs.
Because if we never show any jealousy or possessiveness, the chick will wonder whether she really has your heart. And she will work harder to try to get it.
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"A life spent making mistakes is not only more honourable but more useful than a life spent in doing nothing."
--George Bernard Shaw
We can't show it. Ever.
Because why do we not bring a rose on the first date?
Why do we not say I love you first?
Why do we not tell her she's beautiful?
Because doing so REVEALS YOUR EXTREMELY HIGH INTEREST LEVEL.
As does a show of jealousy.
Here's an anecdote that I found astonishing.
Do you guys know who Cindy Margolis is?
She has a show on E! called "In Your Dreams." Basically, if you haven't seen the show, she's just about the hottest woman in the world. A flawless female specimen.
Well, she's married. To the owner of a restaurant chain in L.A. (Jerry's Deli).
And so when I heard this, I thought, How the hell do you keep a wife every clinically sane guy would just about give his left nut to be with?
And listen to his.
She was interviewed by a Maxim-like magazine based in L.A. (Bold Magazine).
And she said this...
Her husband sets her up on dates!
No shhit.
Because he owns restaurants, he knows celebrities, and he sets up dates for his wife with them.
For instance, he set up an hour of time for his wife and Brad Pitt to be alone together, as he knew that Bradd Pitt was coming to his restaurant and he asked this of Brad Pitt as a favor.
And when Cindy Margolis was asked about this, about the fact that her husband sets her up with other guys, you know what she said?
She was confused! She said it made her feel like she hadn't entirely won him over yet. It messed her up inside because her husband was so obviously not jealous.
And if you think about, what her husband did is the ONLY thing you could do to try to keep such a woman.
Because the bottom line is CHALLENGE. If she thinks she hasn't won you yet, she's NOT GOING TO BE INTERESTED IN OTHER GUYS. But the second she thinks she's won you, then I believe her interest will stray.
It's like what Doc Love says, for you to really own her heart, she MUST KNOW THAT YOU ARE PREPARED TO WALK AND NEVER LOOK BACK EVEN IF IT KILLS YOU.
So I think a show of jealousy is ABSOLUTELY THE WORST THING YOU CAN DO WITH A CHICK.
For those who read my previous post about my sit. with my girlfriend, I did a lot recently regarding her.
First, yesterday, on the phone, I said to her, "I don't think you're over your ex-boyfriend."
She said she was shocked.
Then I said, "I'm not comfortable being a relationship with you if he's still in your life. I want you to take some time and figure out if you will be prepared if he calls you to say, don't call again, and hang up."
Well she said right away that she would not do that. She would not hang up on him.
So then we started talking about what "in your life" means.
And she said she wouldn't meet him in person, and that she wouldn't call him, but if he called her she would talk to him.
Well we hung up, and I thought about it.
And I realized IT'S RIDICULOUS TO SET UP RULES SUCH AS YOU CAN'T MEET IN PERSON, YOU CAN'T CALL HIM, BUT HE CAN CALL YOU, ETC.
Because the BOTTOM LINE is, if there is a DESIRE in someone for someone else, you CANNOT CHANGE THAT DESIRE.
Parents have realized that there's no point in telling their kids who they can date. Because the kids won't listen.
And I realized there was no use in telling my girlfriend she couldn't talk to her ex-boyfriend, because if she WANTED TO, she would eventually.
So I called her up later and said, "Go ahead and talk to him. And if you want to see him, too, go ahead. I trust you, and I'm not going to tell you who you care about. To me, he's another guy friend. You know what I think about people in a relationship who keep friends of the opposite sex, but I can't make you do anything. So go ahead and see him if you want."
I believe this is the only way of dealing with such a situation.
That's not to say that I tell her you shouldn't tell her you don't mind at all if you do mind.
But I think you should just say, I can't make you do anything, so do what you want.
BUT SHE MUST KNOW THAT IF SHE DOES IT, SHE WILL INCUR YOUR DISPLEASURE.
Same holds true with a girlfriend's guy friends. Obviously, you don't want your girlfriend to keep guy friends. But DEMANDING she cut them out of her life won't work. So you say, go ahead, see them if you want, but you also convey to her that it will not make you happy.
So the bottom line is, I think we must avoid a show of jealousy at all costs.
Because if we never show any jealousy or possessiveness, the chick will wonder whether she really has your heart. And she will work harder to try to get it.
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"A life spent making mistakes is not only more honourable but more useful than a life spent in doing nothing."
--George Bernard Shaw
