"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Jealousy and the SH*T test

RogueWarrior

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Sanity check me, gents. If a girl is trying to make you jealous that's a sh*t test, yes? Okay, if that's the case that makes her a bit of a b**ch but then again maybe there's the intent to get you to get off the pot and actually do something about it.

Nevertheless, what's the correct parry for this particular test?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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azanon

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Actively ignore it.

What i mean is try to make it at least subtlely evident that you actually noticed her attempt, but in the same respect do or say something that will imply that you could not care less.
 

Metro3pilot

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in my experience ...it's just the tip of the iceburg and a preview of whats to come ....

I have never had a chick that's started to played games ..stop playing them .. if you successfully stop one game, another is just around the corner ... you got it right when you said she's a bit of a bytch .... don't look for excuses to why she does what she does ...she's not going to change


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joekerr31

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my experience is that women try to 'get' you one of two ways.

1) they treat you unbelievably good. like a king. they stroke your ego, they tell you how much you matter to them, etc. they basically attempt to build greater and greater perceived value through positive conditioning.

2) they attempt to find your breaking point - the various things which they can use to control you. that may be sex, jealousy, attention, etc. this is the push pull method. they give you a taste of what you want, then take it away for a short time, then give you a bit more, then take it away again, etc.

personally, i have no time in my life for those using #2. if it were a short term strategy, no problem. but it never is.

as the last poster says, it only gets worse.

#1s though tend to get better with time.
 
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She's trying to gauge your interest level. It might not be as serious as other people have responded. The correct way to respond would be to show disapproval (disappointment is the best form), then turn the tables on her. A dose of her own medicine. Or next her momentarily, until she apologizes for the lack of respect. (if her **** test was really something bad)

However she responds to that is what you should go by.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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personally, i have no time in my life for those using #2. if it were a short term strategy, no problem. but it never is.
Agree in part with joekerr31. Depends if we're talking about a GF or just a date. If it's your girl then you might need to take a step back, depending on what exactly she did or said. If you really feel like she's disrespecting you then maybe you're with the wrong girl.

On the other hand, if you two are only dating then you just need to laugh it off. She's doing it because she can't work you out, she wants to know how much you like her - take it as a compliment. Laugh it off, don't lay your cards on the table by reacting. I'm sure I speak for most guys when I say I can't be bothered with that s h i t.
 
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