Some of you guys crack me up with your questions about whether you should be insecure that your girlfriends are constantly hanging out alone with guy friends. I agree completely that jealousy is all about your insecurities. If you display those insecurities you reduce yourself, lose power, and weaken yourself in her eyes and generally turn her off. Therefore, never be a little wussy boy and show your insecurities.
But I will say this:
JUST BECAUSE YOU'RE INSECURE, DOESN'T MEAN SHE'S NOT FVCKING SOME OTHER GUY.
I'll give you a personal example. I was going out "steady" with this girl for a couple of years and would fvck many women on the side. A couple of these women were regular fvck buddies and had been for years, even before I met my girlfriend.
My gf would get jealous that I was "hanging out" with my girl "friends" who I was actually fvcking. My response to my gf: "don't be so insecure." That statement is like the bomb they dropped in Afghanistan, the "cutting daisy" I think they called it, because it just cuts everything down to knee level. That statement prevents her from bringing up the subject again because, well, she doesn't want to appear to be insecure.
It also allowed me to continue to fvck my FBs (fvck buddies) unhindered by my gf.
Now, my own personal opinion is that if a GF wants to consistently hang out with guy friends on her own and whom I don't know, then she may just be getting fvcked by them. Would I be "insecure" in thinking that? WHATEVER. I'm a realist.
Does my acting or even BEING secure make me a DJ? Perhaps, BUT IT ALSO WON'T PREVENT HER FROM FVCKING OTHER GUYS. And, in fact, you can go ahead and be as SECURE as you'd like and if your girl is out there fvcking other guys while you're being so damn secure, then you are A FVCKING CHUMP. A FVCKING CHUMP!
What to do: simple, really. You don't like something, you tell her. You tell her cooly and calmly and directly. You tell her what you want. You bottom-line it. You tell her once. No more. You don;t continue to whine about it and bring it up every third day (or hour). Once. She calls you insecure, she continues to do whatever it is you don't like, you DUMP her because she's not into you enough to make you happy, she's self-centered, she's a player, she's just not that interested in you, and she's disrespectful. Then go get yourself a woman who makes you happy.
Peace.
But I will say this:
JUST BECAUSE YOU'RE INSECURE, DOESN'T MEAN SHE'S NOT FVCKING SOME OTHER GUY.
I'll give you a personal example. I was going out "steady" with this girl for a couple of years and would fvck many women on the side. A couple of these women were regular fvck buddies and had been for years, even before I met my girlfriend.
My gf would get jealous that I was "hanging out" with my girl "friends" who I was actually fvcking. My response to my gf: "don't be so insecure." That statement is like the bomb they dropped in Afghanistan, the "cutting daisy" I think they called it, because it just cuts everything down to knee level. That statement prevents her from bringing up the subject again because, well, she doesn't want to appear to be insecure.
It also allowed me to continue to fvck my FBs (fvck buddies) unhindered by my gf.
Now, my own personal opinion is that if a GF wants to consistently hang out with guy friends on her own and whom I don't know, then she may just be getting fvcked by them. Would I be "insecure" in thinking that? WHATEVER. I'm a realist.
Does my acting or even BEING secure make me a DJ? Perhaps, BUT IT ALSO WON'T PREVENT HER FROM FVCKING OTHER GUYS. And, in fact, you can go ahead and be as SECURE as you'd like and if your girl is out there fvcking other guys while you're being so damn secure, then you are A FVCKING CHUMP. A FVCKING CHUMP!
What to do: simple, really. You don't like something, you tell her. You tell her cooly and calmly and directly. You tell her what you want. You bottom-line it. You tell her once. No more. You don;t continue to whine about it and bring it up every third day (or hour). Once. She calls you insecure, she continues to do whatever it is you don't like, you DUMP her because she's not into you enough to make you happy, she's self-centered, she's a player, she's just not that interested in you, and she's disrespectful. Then go get yourself a woman who makes you happy.
Peace.
