"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

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jealous of my good friend

foomee

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so a girl i've been really digging for like a month and always hanging out and everything is starting to talk to my good friend... much more than me. they're not hanging out because we have a holiday right now so we're all at home, but they always talk online and frankly speaking i'm a little jealous.

so my friend knew i liked this girl for a long time. then one night i'm talking to him online and the girl is here cooking dinner and i decide to invite him over and join us. they talk and exchange qq and phone and whatever. (btw he's chinese, she's chinese, i'm american) she knows i like her and before him and the girl met she'd constantly be talking to me online and always be at my place hanging out.

so there's that whole language barrier thing, and he "says" she's not his type and she says "he's not her type" and blah blah. but i still feel a little insecure or jealous about him talking with her. i mean damn she was my target in the beginning. and he has a gf.

so should this girl just be fair game for both of us? or should i ask him to back off? i dont know. -.-

and yes i'm spinning other plates. last night some girl cooked me dinner and wanted to f me but i drank too much and felt sick so i went home and had diarrhea all night #_#
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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RedZone

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Why are you jealous if he already has a gf? Even better if you like her so much why don't you ask her out?
 

zekko

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mustfirstregister said:
why are u jealous if u r already spinning several plates?
Because life is not a pickup forum and sometimes there are girls you want more than others.

But I guess you mean he isn't exclusive with her, he is going out with other girls, so what right does he have to get upset if she goes out with some other dude. Hard to argue about that.

If they're both Chinese maybe they remind each other of home or whatever. If they're just talking online I doubt it would bother me. If they started spending time together that might get my attention, since this friend of yours knows you're targetting this chick. But again, you're not committed to her, so all's fair.
 

Chickfight

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She obviously takes you as a friend if she comes over often and you're not getting intimate at all. Btw, she knows you like her and still hangs out with you? Wow, that means she's really comfortable around you in a bad way and also that she likes the attention. Good news is it seems like she sees him as a friend too, but you're not going to be able to get with her either way.

Focus on your other girls.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

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