"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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TheGameMaster

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i have been working on myself and my life for a long while now and can feel myself becoming more of a DJ on a daily basis. You just know, it runs in your blood, you feel it in your heart..you feel like a force. That make sense to anyone? Sometimes hot women get nervous when you look them in the eye like deers in headlights. Are these signs that you are regarded as high status do you think? I can like, feel my own presence moving through an area, and i get alot of positive reactions from girls especially because i smile at them etc.
All thanks to this place!

Anyway, having more success in life i am starting to feel jealousy from friends. I dont want fall outs, I dont want to end up with barely any friends because of my success.

What do you do if your mates become jealous of you?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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You can't do anything to stop them from being jealous. However, if your always bragging about your successes, people will get annoyed by you so it could be a two-way street.

Think about it this way. If they REALLY are your friends, they would WANT to see you grow and change into a better man. If not, then they are self-absorbed and you don't need that kind of person as a friend anyway.


But why are you saying that they're jealous? What made you assume this?
 

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You have made a decision to grow to develop yourself and make yourself a better person. You make this decision to have a better life.


As you change into this better person what often happens is you leave others behind. They don't develop themselves and as you do they sense this and don't want it to happen for all sorts of reasons.


People become friendly with others because they are they same sort of person i.e. in a class the nerds will hang out in a group etc. Friends usually have similar outlooks on life and see the world in a similar way. As you change into a new better person then you are not the same person anymore so you are more likely to drift apart.


This happens alot when growing up. You'll notice that you're not as friendly to the people who you were when you were younger. This is just part of growing up.


As you develop yourself it doesn't mean you can't remain friends but it won't be the same. You'll also make new friends too.


TheGameMaster said:
i have been working on myself and my life for a long while now and can feel myself becoming more of a DJ on a daily basis. You just know, it runs in your blood, you feel it in your heart..you feel like a force. That make sense to anyone?
Yes and it feels great.
 

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From what I see, there are two reasons why your friends would be jealous... one is that you brag (not cool). The other is that many folks can't stand success and try to drag the successful people down to their level.

Think about it this way, the more successful you become at anything in life... the more distractors and complainers you will meet...

It is just human nature... for me, I would look for more successful friends because you are who you hang out with.
 

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You don't need jealousy to bring your state down. Do you get jealous of others? If not, then you need to teach these friends how to lose their jealousy the same way you did. After years of struggling with being jealous of anyone who had more than me, I've decided to be content and I've been a much happier person since.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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one of my main rules that is set in stone in my head is that I should never boast or brag. I literally dont do it.
My friend pulled a decent looking girl in a club the other day and i commented that she was nice and he never said anything..just blanked me completely. Which made me think, that he thought id steal her frm him or something.
I just have this picture in my mind that if you get really successful then people will envy you to the point where behind your back, they dont like you.
It could be more my problem, in my head, than anything else. I dont know
 
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