"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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jballa24

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OKAY HERE GOES....IM STARTING MY BOOTCAMP TODAY AND IM GOING TO TRY AND RECORD IT HERE ON THIS THREAD. I'VE ALREADY READ ALL THE ARTICLES FOR WEEK ONE AND STARTED SOME OF THE EXERCISES(EYE CONTACT MOSTLY) I LIKE HOW WEEK ONE STARTS BECAUSE THIS IS THE BIGGEST PART OF MY PROBLEM. BEING SOCIAL...IT'S REALLY HARD FOR ME. IM NOT A BAD LOOKING GUY AT ALL I WORK OUT ALOT AND GET HIT ON AT CLUBS, NOT TRYING TO BE CONCEITED OR ****Y BUT IT'S TRUE....BUT I REALIZED ALL THAT IS USELESS IF I CAN'T COMMUNICATE AND HAVE AN ATTRACTIVE PERSONALITY. MY FRIENDS ALWAYS ASK ME WHAT IS UP WITH ME AND WHY I DON'T HAVE ALOT OF WOMEN BECAUSE I SHOULD, I DON'T TELL THEM IT'S BECAUSE MY GAME IS WACK BUT THAT IS THE REASON. HOPEFULLY STICKING WITH THIS BOOTCAMP WILL GET ME OUT OF BEING THE NICE GUY WHO IS NEVER IN CONTROL OR THE GOOD LOOKING GUY WITH NO CONFIDENCE MENTALITY TO BEING TOTALLY CONTENT WITH MY LOVELIFE.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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you should advertise your bootcamp to other people trying to officially get in the field I know some here are more than willing to join, although you should have joined the bootcamp moderated by the SHezz and Rbb where its already in week 3
 

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week 1 day 1

First..I didn't know that the bootcamp was starting up then. I wanted start and didn't know when the next one was starting up so I started my own bootcamp thanks to the idea of a fellow dj. Second...sorry about the caps I didn't realized I was typing in caps yesterday. And third Anyone can do this bootcamp with me I'm fine with that I just didn't want to wait for the next one...so if there's any one out there that wants to join be my guest.

Okay now after getting that out of the way lets talk about my first day. Day one was not bad at all. All day at work I was talking to people and making eye contact which I never do. I already feel more confident just by looking into people's eyes while talking to them. I didn't know how much of an impact it has on how people veiw you. I felt as though I would gain respect from the people I was talking to, also it seemed as though they actually wanted to hear what I had to say. Okay so after work my best friend which is a girl wanted to hang out and go to a bar with some friends. I was like perfect...just what I need. A social situation to where i could practice this eye contact thing out even more. All night as I was getting pretty drunk I was making eye contact with my best friend, another female that was with us and the waitresses and let me tell ya I loved the attention I was getting. This is how much attention I was getting....my best friend and me were sorta dating like 2 weeks ago. The guy that she's talking to now came out there to meet up with us.....she didn't go home with him she went home with me. I was completely wasted at the end of the night so there wasn't too much action going on when we got home, but it was the point that she blew him off completley and gave me all her attention. I don't want to get back with her so don't worry guys I'm staying friends with her. The other female talked to me more than she ever has before and I would lock eyes with her and not look away until she did first. Actually I think talking to her so much made my best friend jealous. Anyways that's howmy first day went and hopefully it just gets better from here out.


jballa24.....fall down 7 times get up 8
 

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I would appreciate any input, suggestions, tips, or ideas to kinda enhance each week of boot camp.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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