"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Jariel’s Don Juan Tip Sheet

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Jariel said:
Do not be afraid to take a few fashion risks and ignore those who think taking care of yourself is for gays only.
I always laugh when I hear some guy with a beer gut and hasn't shaved or brushed his teeth say "working out is for fags" or buying nice clothes is for gays. I'm not trying to break out another Oh my God!!! Looks are the most important thing in the world debate but the guys who take care of themselves usually have chicks to show for it.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Remulak said:
I always laugh when I hear some guy with a beer gut and hasn't shaved or brushed his teeth say "working out is for fags" or buying nice clothes is for gays. I'm not trying to break out another Oh my God!!! Looks are the most important thing in the world debate but the guys who take care of themselves usually have chicks to show for it.
How you dress is usually how your perception of yourself is (unless you cannot afford it or if situation warrents sh!tty clothes) or at least, that is how someone will interprut it especially a woman.

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comic_relief said:
How you dress is usually how your perception of yourself is (unless you cannot afford it or if situation warrents sh!tty clothes) or at least, that is how someone will interprut it especially a woman.

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I never thought of it like that before...

holy sh!t! You're right. I dress like a slob because... I think I'm a slob.

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After all the stuff I've listened to, programs I've watched and books I've read to improve my mindset for dealing with women, this post brings back the basics plain and clear. Excellent post.
 

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Without an iota of doubt, a gr8 post. i hv started taking lot of these suggestions seriously. I went to sydney for xmas where i met few girls whom i danced with and did a bit of kino. didnt lead to nething but just a slight injection of confidence. thanks for sosuave.com and members like JARIEL in helping me to get beyond and yes quick fixes dont work.
i am dating somebody else too but we r still not committed at all. Keep em coming.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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