"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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japanese girls and dating them

joe45

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anyone find that japanese girls when you go out with them, they are open in going halves-when it comes to dating. i met one today and she just open her own wallet and paid her own share. this happened with a few japanese girls i met too. they ok with paying for their own part-be it meal, movie...
i notice chinese girls n korean arent like this. they want the guy to pay

also i heard they are also more open to sex and easy. is this true from ur experience. why do you guys think this is the case-considering chinese n korean girls arent. is it their culture and if so why are they like that.

what has ur experience been like with japanese girls compared to other asian girls-chinese, cbc, korean,flippno...etc and which do u prefer and like
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I've not met enough japanese girls to make a generalization like that. I've gone out with one, I paid however. I do think japanese girls are cute, too bad I don't meet too many.
 

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わたしは大好きおんあのに日本人です 

(Pretty sure that's correct.)

BTW I've heard that Japanese girls really like white guys, and that getting a j-girl is easy if your white. Any truth to this?
 

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i asked a japanese co-worker out on a date in my late teenage years. she introduced herself to me, was very friendly and invited me to hang out with her friends showed me her louis voutton wallet, drove me to work, flattered me a bit. i tried to pay for her lunch and she was very persistent in going half. haha. so i guess it's true. as with hard to get i would say yes after my whole experience with that one girl. i never really got over her and think of her to this day, a whole 7 years later. she had such a beautiful voice so soothing to listen to...


my experience with chinese girls when i traveled to china is that they are pretty open to sex and they are not really that hard to get. don't have much say in korean girls.


i'll get back to you on the filipina, thai, indonesian, etc... i'm still trying to do my thing
 

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Japanese girls live in Japan. Use your passports. Immigrants are not what you find when you travel to their homeland. Like seeing some girl who claims she is Ukrainian in Canada. No such thing. She is Anglophile. She is ruined. We all know that. At least those of us who travel.

Does anyone here even travel? I doubt it.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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BigJimbo said:
Japanese girls live in Japan. Use your passports. Immigrants are not what you find when you travel to their homeland. Like seeing some girl who claims she is Ukrainian in Canada. No such thing. She is Anglophile. She is ruined. We all know that. At least those of us who travel.

Does anyone here even travel? I doubt it.
one place i dont think you have traveled is the US since you are always dissing our women. sure we have a lot of over weight and trashy girls but we also have some SMOKIN ones...a lot. ive been to england, denmark, mexico, france, netherlands, canada, germany among other places...and guess who has the sexiest girls..AMERICA baby. maybe not percentage wise, but guess what we've got a hell of a lot more people
 

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well i am surrounded by them here, cant complain. being white, hmm... i usually find j-girls either are ok with a white guy or they aren't - if they aren't the game is over already, find someone else. If they are (and these are the ones that go live in other countries usually) then yeah it's easier. it could be the total lack of religion in japan, but generally cheating is not such a big deal here, sex is not quite as sacred and holy as in the western world, watch out :D As for paying for stuff, depends who is financing their trip overseas I guess - in my experience here paying half is pretty common.
 

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A bit of a generalisation, because it really depends on where the girl has been brought up. If they are born in the country you are chances are that she will be more accustomed to your culture. I know that the asian girls that are born in a western country are more open compared to the ones that are not who are more submissive and quite.

In terms of the paying thing, i dont think you should base it on the fact she is Japanese. I do know that in Chinese culture when having a formal meal it is customary to pay and sometimes people will fight over the bill, its like the person that pays is paying as a gesture of gratitude.

But if she is like a international student, chances are that her parents are financing her everything.
 

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The first thing that caught my eye is the fact that many girls will not say they have boyfriends unless they are asked. Dating Japanese girls needs special preparation if you want to go anywhere if you establish the relationship. It is pretty hard to describe Japanese girls. This is because of the mystery they are associated with.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Maxtro said:
わたしは大好きおんあのに日本人です 

(Pretty sure that's correct.)

BTW I've heard that Japanese girls really like white guys, and that getting a j-girl is easy if your white. Any truth to this?
Its not correct :)

I'm not entirely sure what you are trying to say.

I live in Japan, and there is some truth to it being easy in Japan. Getting into a serious relationship would be harder (though they might want to date a foreigner, they often wouldn't want to marry one).

As for paying for things, I'd say overall that there is more of an expectation that the man will pay. Although I've been out with girls who have been willing to pay for themselves or even both of us, its fairly unusual and for the most part I'd expect to pay for basically everything.

And yes, Japanese women are the best in the world in my opinion. I'm never leaving Asia.
 

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Tesl said:
Its not correct :)

I'm not entirely sure what you are trying to say.
D'oh.

I wanted to say, "I really like Japanese women."
I thought it was, Watashi wa daisuki onna no nihonjin
 

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Maxtro said:
D'oh.

I wanted to say, "I really like Japanese women."
I thought it was, Watashi wa daisuki onna no nihonjin
日本人の女が大好きです

I think that is what you are looking for :)

(you dont really need the Watashi wa either, although its still correct with it)
 
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