"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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James' approach journal

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So I figured I am going to do many approaches from here on out, so If anything this will be my journal to myself, but anyone wanna add advice, that would be great.
I am getting over a ltr that is pretty hard one to deal with (awsome girl),we just werent compatable we tried over and over but gave up- just wasnt workin.
So new at the game- Im goin all out.
Sorry to double post here from my bootcamp records but I feel it was appropiate. Sarge on fellas:up:
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Well I went to the mall for awhile and ive never seen the place so dead. But I managed to say hi to at least 10 girls and made good eye contact. Some smiled I smiled back. I tried to talk to 1 without any success.
her>(works at store)hello how are you today?
me>Im doin good and you?
her>pretty good
me>is it always this slow in here?
her>pretty much this time on thursdays
me>(smiled like hmm) then nothin
I had nothin. A loss for words, I just continued on
 

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Went to bar alone. It was kinda early so not many ppl. so I went to the bar and sat down. Had a few drinks and this 2 set opened me! We were talkin a little bit then they ordered jello shots. Shooters! I ordered some more 2 for me 1 ea for them-I know dont buy them alcohol, but I thought it would be good to talk about. I said cheers with the little cup it was pretty funny how we all cheer with the little cup neway. Convo got a little crazy with how to eat this thing, work your tongue like this hehe. Then my targets bf came over I introduce myself etc.. then they leave.Darnit.
 

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DAy 1?:I met this hb6 but kinda cute, I just dont like somethin about her dont know what. Neways got to a-3 just experimenting with my skills, did some kino-trust test, and got my first # close> she closed me!
DAY 2?: I think I opened 2 sets, little bit of convo but didnt go very far.
Day 3?: I had a very interesting night. I walked down to the bar (1 dui already)
and I walked in smiling, good posture, feelin good, and before I even got to the bar, the first set nearby hb7 opens me. Lisa, kinda cute. Shes kinda drunk but not too much and she introduces herself. Anyway we go outside to smoke, I ask her about her tatoo, her and her friends are showin me all there tatoos, and shes showin me the one on her teet> oops n** slip! ''You like'' she asked. ""Nice" i reply. Anyways Im DHV, NEGGING, the hell out of this freaky girl and shes gettin freakier. She was tryin to prove herself to me all night. Then her girlfriend-(girlfriend) shows up? WTF??? her gf is an UG2?? strange because Lisa is kinda hot. Anyways I try to open up her gf a little get her on my side, she dosent like me. I even danced with her Lisa is talkin to me, kissing, when her friend was gone tellin me to go with them and shell give me a bj! , shes all over me and Im thinkin wow I learned some great s*** We are gettin pretty drunk by now ANd all the sudden she turns to me and says "GET THE f*** OUTTA HERE!" ?????????????????????????????????????????????????? ???????????????????
I smile and say with weird look on my face> "HUH??"
"GET THE F*** OUTTA HERE, LEAVE"
"WHAT?"
"you can have any girl you want, get the f*** outta here"
"Ok see you later" And I left confused as f*** but with pride.
I dont know what the hell happened there, the # she gave me must be wrong cause its busy always, I was gunna call her and ask if she sayed that because her gf was there? Did I neg her to death? Did I over qualify? SAd thing is I cant seem to remember what transpired prior to that. But I did neg her alot. Anyway I learned alot - 1:dont neg so much when shes showing interest
2:dont do too much with an ug 2 to get a hb7!
3: Im gunna get laid next weekend or die tryin!

I am feeling pretty good now with my newly learned skills, looking forward to next friday!
 

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the vault

Today I focused on opening, I got it down now. I opened at least 20 dif sets, my version of jealous gf was theme today. I did pretty good! I was never not in a set all nite I was talkin to some girl. I joined sets immediatly, faster than 3 seconds, feelin good about that.
Only 2 sets shot me down, jealous gf works well, most women said its bad for him to still talk to ex gf's some even implied he was a jerk for talkin to other women and got a little negative.
I used false time constraints about half the time gotta work on that, also gotta work on threading forward, cause I left the convo at jealous gf and kept talking about the opener. Ill work on dhv tonite hehe
Also I got to drunk again- MODERATE dumba**!
I took some girls back to an after hour party but they stole my girls and kicked me out! WTF! anyways goin sargin tonite im excited to use my skills! Ima get some soon!
My goals for tonight:
1; dhv storyline, threading forward
2; ftc every set
3; over shoulder more, I was just going straight in on most sets
4; close properly, get a #
5; Use more kino
6; get f******* LAID
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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frankies

Not much today, my ex g-f called me today kinda tripped me out. She called when I was on the way to the bar. She asked me what I was doing and I told her I was goin to the bar. She said she thought Id be sleeping and then she hung up on me. Should I have told her that?
1: I saw Mellisa again at frankies and rememberd her name this time. I had a pretty solid convo with her teased her, started kino, and was getting IOI's. Then this guy came over I asked her "introduce me to your friend its the polite thing to do" she said ''oh this is my husband, blank" " nice to meet you blank" Wow- I never even contemplated her being married. Darn- she was a very beatiful woman too. But I noticed her watchin me sarge all night. She was watchin me as if she was curious.
2: I opened a hb9 forgot her name, and talked to her for awhile, she said she owned a bussiness in constuction and I told her what I did and asked if she would be interested in getting bids. She said yes and to go to her bussiness :simpson something?
3; 4; 5; Talked to a few more girls...
6?; Then I saw April from the other time I was there. She was with hb7 I never met,- introduce.. she was incredibly boring and I negged her way to much and in the wrong ways. I told her "are you always like this","you gotta have some fun"etc... referring to her emotionless state. She told April I was a jerk and to get out of her bubble. oops I pissed of her friends now. She dosent like me at all. Not worried about it cause im gettin to know April pretty good now. But will still try to fix if I can.
Not allowed to another after hours party.
Walked home again.:cuss:
Still confident opening, but didnt dhv very well or anything else really. I think this is my sticking point.
 

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the stage

I finallly got some! woot!;
Thursday: I went in to the bar feelin pretty good, read some book about confidance. I dont know why but this bar has gotten me the best results of any other and I dont really like the place. The setting sucks, looks like a school cafateria or something but its on the way to my main bar.
Anyways Im watching this girl singing kareoky and she got a pretty good voice so I applaude her woot, clap, etc.. and she comes over to me and we talk a little. and I tell her im leaving soon to go to frankies (real time constraint) but totally vibing non needyness. She offers me her number (5 min in, btw)
Friday: So I search forums on phone game, I call her and we talk for a while.
I show some sexual interest for the hell of it, feeling I got nothing to lose (she # closed me). Good convo going on I feel its a good time to end call, I tell her we should talk later, and we hang up.
About an hour later she calls and says "you want to f*** me dont you?" Stunned I say "tonight?"
she says " ya tonight"
me "ok where you live"
BOOM-O (less than an hour in,) I go there and and we go right at it- OMG what a freak, turns out she just got divorced and was lonely, so I complied.. hehe..
I teased the s*** out of her and drove her crazy ;)
I kinda like her but Im sargin again tommorow :p
 

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Haha man wow I love your stories, you seem to attract some weird girls (them telling you to **** off etc lol).
Your persistent though, so congrats on the lay :p.
Hope to hear more real soon!:up:
 
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