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Good to be back!
After taking a week off to get used to digging ditches for 12 hours a day, I'm back and made some good gains today.
SATURDAY
Squat 3 x 5 PR
8 x 45 (bar)
5 x 95
3 x 135
1 x 155
5 x 190
5 x 190
5 x 190
Couldn't go much harder than I went today on squats. I doubt I'd have been able to do 195.
Standing Military Press 3 x 5 PR
8 x 45 (bar) <-- did this warmup set today just to get the feel of the movement, not sure if it's necessary.
5 x 105
5 x 105
5 x 105
I struggled to do 100 last time, upped it 5 lbs today and it actually felt easier.
Pendlay Rows 3 x 5 PR
5 x 115
5 x 115
5 x 115
Chin-ups 2 x 8
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I'm going to Quag's advice and get going on a hardgainers routine for the summer. I hate to see Rippetoe go, I enjoyed the program and it served me well even if it was only for a month. Hopefully I can revert back to Rippetoe's program once my job ends in August and I go back to university.
After taking a week off to get used to digging ditches for 12 hours a day, I'm back and made some good gains today.
SATURDAY
Squat 3 x 5 PR
8 x 45 (bar)
5 x 95
3 x 135
1 x 155
5 x 190
5 x 190
5 x 190
Couldn't go much harder than I went today on squats. I doubt I'd have been able to do 195.
Standing Military Press 3 x 5 PR
8 x 45 (bar) <-- did this warmup set today just to get the feel of the movement, not sure if it's necessary.
5 x 105
5 x 105
5 x 105
I struggled to do 100 last time, upped it 5 lbs today and it actually felt easier.
Pendlay Rows 3 x 5 PR
5 x 115
5 x 115
5 x 115
Chin-ups 2 x 8
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I'm going to Quag's advice and get going on a hardgainers routine for the summer. I hate to see Rippetoe go, I enjoyed the program and it served me well even if it was only for a month. Hopefully I can revert back to Rippetoe's program once my job ends in August and I go back to university.
What do you guys think of this routine? It's in IA's top 10 favourite routines thread.
Hardgainer/Low Volume/Frequency Routine
Day One:
Dips or Bench Press 2-3 x 6-8
Incline Press, or incline Fly 2 x 10-12
Military Press, Or Hammer Shoulder Press 2-3 x 6-8
Tricep (skull crushers) Extensions or Tricep Pushdowns 2-3 x 10-12
Heavy Abs 3 x 10
Day Two:
Pull-Up 3 sets to failure
Barbell Row 2-3 x 8
EZ-Bar Or Dumbell Curl 1-2 x 10
Squats 2 x 10
Deadlifts, or Stiff-Legged Deadlift 1 x 10
I know IA is very well respected but do you guys think this routine would be good for me to get strength and size gains, given where I'm at right now and the job I'm working?
Hardgainer/Low Volume/Frequency Routine
Day One:
Dips or Bench Press 2-3 x 6-8
Incline Press, or incline Fly 2 x 10-12
Military Press, Or Hammer Shoulder Press 2-3 x 6-8
Tricep (skull crushers) Extensions or Tricep Pushdowns 2-3 x 10-12
Heavy Abs 3 x 10
Day Two:
Pull-Up 3 sets to failure
Barbell Row 2-3 x 8
EZ-Bar Or Dumbell Curl 1-2 x 10
Squats 2 x 10
Deadlifts, or Stiff-Legged Deadlift 1 x 10
I know IA is very well respected but do you guys think this routine would be good for me to get strength and size gains, given where I'm at right now and the job I'm working?
WEDNESDAY
Did Rippetoe again today because I don't know what else to do. Any thoughts on what routine to go with now?
Anyway I only got about 6 hours of sleep last night because I watched the NBA final game and then got up early for work. Work wasn't that tiring today though...at least I thought.
Squat 3 x 5 PR
8 x 45 (bar)
5 x 95
3 x 135
1 x 165
2 x 190
3 x 185
Horrible, I guess I wasn't up for working out following a day of work after all. Hopefully I adjust more and can get used to this but squats were brutal today. I knew something was up when my warmup set 1x165 was a little more difficult than it should have been. I was pissed and still am but Saturday has to be better.
Bench Press 3 x 5 PR
8 x 45 (bar)
5 x 95
5 x 140
5 x 140
5 x 140
First time doing 140 without failure. It almost felt as if I could do 145. I was debating going home after squats but I knew I could probably lift a lot out of anger. Good improvement here.
Deadlift 1 x 5 PR
1 x 135
1 x 185
5 x 230
Again, I was able to do this because I was mad at myself for not being able to squat. The extra energy in my legs probably helped too, though.
Weighted Dips 2 x 8
8 x 35
8 x 35
I'm ready for an increase here, my tri's have become noticeably stronger lately.
$hitty workout overall mainly because the squats set me off. At least I was able to do bench and deads. Saturday will be much better.
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The good news: I'm looking noticeably bigger although I haven't gained much more weight since the start of the month (maybe a couple lbs). I'm not going to weigh myself again until July 1st though, just have to trust that I'm doing everything right. I think I base all my success on how much I weigh and if I don't gain weight I see it as a failure so I need to stop weighing myself all the time.
Also, after a week I've already got a reputation at work for bringing in a ton of beef and eating like a monster... lol
that can only be a good thing.
Did Rippetoe again today because I don't know what else to do. Any thoughts on what routine to go with now?
Anyway I only got about 6 hours of sleep last night because I watched the NBA final game and then got up early for work. Work wasn't that tiring today though...at least I thought.
Squat 3 x 5 PR
8 x 45 (bar)
5 x 95
3 x 135
1 x 165
2 x 190
3 x 185
Horrible, I guess I wasn't up for working out following a day of work after all. Hopefully I adjust more and can get used to this but squats were brutal today. I knew something was up when my warmup set 1x165 was a little more difficult than it should have been. I was pissed and still am but Saturday has to be better.
Bench Press 3 x 5 PR
8 x 45 (bar)
5 x 95
5 x 140
5 x 140
5 x 140
First time doing 140 without failure. It almost felt as if I could do 145. I was debating going home after squats but I knew I could probably lift a lot out of anger. Good improvement here.
Deadlift 1 x 5 PR
1 x 135
1 x 185
5 x 230
Again, I was able to do this because I was mad at myself for not being able to squat. The extra energy in my legs probably helped too, though.
Weighted Dips 2 x 8
8 x 35
8 x 35
I'm ready for an increase here, my tri's have become noticeably stronger lately.
$hitty workout overall mainly because the squats set me off. At least I was able to do bench and deads. Saturday will be much better.
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The good news: I'm looking noticeably bigger although I haven't gained much more weight since the start of the month (maybe a couple lbs). I'm not going to weigh myself again until July 1st though, just have to trust that I'm doing everything right. I think I base all my success on how much I weigh and if I don't gain weight I see it as a failure so I need to stop weighing myself all the time.
Also, after a week I've already got a reputation at work for bringing in a ton of beef and eating like a monster... lol
that can only be a good thing.
SUNDAY
I went to the gym yesterday after being busy all day, pulled into the parking lot at 6:15 and found out the gym closed at 6. So I went today instead.
Squat 3 x 5
8 x 45 (bar)
5 x 95
3 x 135
1 x 165
3 x 195 --> fail
5 x 185
5 x 185
Took a step backwards here. I'm not sure why, maybe part of it is that I had that huge mental block after my brutal attempt at squatting last time.
Standing Military Press 3 x 5 PR
8 x 45 (bar)
5 x 110
5 x 110
4 x 110
Finally starting to see gains in this exercise...
Pendlay Rows 3 x 5
5 x 115
5 x 115
5 x 115
Chin-ups 2 x 8
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BTW, I haven't talked about my diet lately. I've been following EFFORT's Simple Starting Diet still; according to fitday.com my calories are in the low 3000s (I know some say 3500-4000 but keep in mind I'm only 5'8" and weigh in the 130s) and I protein is around 220-250g. I think I've found the amounts that work for me so everything is going well diet-wise.
EDIT: Forgot to add that I'm eating more now because of my job. I eat more beef and also have carbo gain shakes while at work. What I mentioned above were my old numbers, I'll see on fitday what my new numbers are.
I went to the gym yesterday after being busy all day, pulled into the parking lot at 6:15 and found out the gym closed at 6. So I went today instead.
Squat 3 x 5
8 x 45 (bar)
5 x 95
3 x 135
1 x 165
3 x 195 --> fail
5 x 185
5 x 185
Took a step backwards here. I'm not sure why, maybe part of it is that I had that huge mental block after my brutal attempt at squatting last time.
Standing Military Press 3 x 5 PR
8 x 45 (bar)
5 x 110
5 x 110
4 x 110
Finally starting to see gains in this exercise...
Pendlay Rows 3 x 5
5 x 115
5 x 115
5 x 115
Chin-ups 2 x 8
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BTW, I haven't talked about my diet lately. I've been following EFFORT's Simple Starting Diet still; according to fitday.com my calories are in the low 3000s (I know some say 3500-4000 but keep in mind I'm only 5'8" and weigh in the 130s) and I protein is around 220-250g. I think I've found the amounts that work for me so everything is going well diet-wise.
EDIT: Forgot to add that I'm eating more now because of my job. I eat more beef and also have carbo gain shakes while at work. What I mentioned above were my old numbers, I'll see on fitday what my new numbers are.
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TUESDAY
I wasn't planning on working out today but work ended early and I was feeling energized. I love the flexibility of a 2 day split, it works for my busy schedule.
Squat 3 x 5
8 x 45 (bar)
5 x 95
3 x 135
1 x 165
5 x 190
5 x 190
5 x 190
Back to 190, nice. This was crazy hard though, I don't know how I found it inside me to get the last rep of each set done.
Bench Press 3 x 5 PR
8 x 45 (bar)
5 x 95
6 x 140
7 x 140
5 x 140
Added some more reps, hopefully I can do 145 next time. I could have done more first set but my foot seized up, it was really weird and painful. My right toes all curled up and went numb so I had to stop lifting and walk it off. It's happened to me before, maybe a nerve problem or something? Never hurt this much though which is why I just ignored it... anyone know what's up?
Deadlift 1 x 5 PR
1 x 135
1 x 185
5 x 235
This is gonna start slowing down soon, I can't keep increasing at this rate and my grip strength is horrible. It always feels like I'm going to drop the weight since I can't grip it tight.
Weighted Dips 2 x 8 PR
8 x 45
8 x 45
Nice...
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So, any thoughts on what routine I should follow? Should I stick to Rippetoe or go with a hardgainers routine? If it's the latter, is the one I suggested good, or can you recommend a different one?
Also please read under my bench press above, I'm concerned about my foot.
Keep the gains coming!
I wasn't planning on working out today but work ended early and I was feeling energized. I love the flexibility of a 2 day split, it works for my busy schedule.
Squat 3 x 5
8 x 45 (bar)
5 x 95
3 x 135
1 x 165
5 x 190
5 x 190
5 x 190
Back to 190, nice. This was crazy hard though, I don't know how I found it inside me to get the last rep of each set done.
Bench Press 3 x 5 PR
8 x 45 (bar)
5 x 95
6 x 140
7 x 140
5 x 140
Added some more reps, hopefully I can do 145 next time. I could have done more first set but my foot seized up, it was really weird and painful. My right toes all curled up and went numb so I had to stop lifting and walk it off. It's happened to me before, maybe a nerve problem or something? Never hurt this much though which is why I just ignored it... anyone know what's up?
Deadlift 1 x 5 PR
1 x 135
1 x 185
5 x 235
This is gonna start slowing down soon, I can't keep increasing at this rate and my grip strength is horrible. It always feels like I'm going to drop the weight since I can't grip it tight.
Weighted Dips 2 x 8 PR
8 x 45
8 x 45
Nice...
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So, any thoughts on what routine I should follow? Should I stick to Rippetoe or go with a hardgainers routine? If it's the latter, is the one I suggested good, or can you recommend a different one?
Also please read under my bench press above, I'm concerned about my foot.
Keep the gains coming!
I-tallionStallion
Master Don Juan
Do you use alternate grip when deadlifting? If you don't start doing it as it may help your grip problems.
Thanks for the replies guys.
ProDJ26 - Yeah I think I'm going to stick to Rippetoe because it seems like I'm still making gains on this program since starting my job over 2 weeks ago, so like you said why fix it. However I'll only do Rippetoe 2x per week for now since I'm still pretty tired after work on most days, not to mention having to do physical work the day after a workout when I'm sore. BTW I keep my feet still when I bench but I'll try to get you guys a video.
Kerpal - Thanks. I'm looking forward to hitting the 2x bw deadlift.
Stallion - Yeah I've always used alternate grip. But I know for a fact, and already knew this from lifting random heavy household things and stuff, that my grip strength is very weak. I think if I stop making gains in my deadlift soon it will be because my hands can't take it anymore, not because my body can't.
ProDJ26 - Yeah I think I'm going to stick to Rippetoe because it seems like I'm still making gains on this program since starting my job over 2 weeks ago, so like you said why fix it. However I'll only do Rippetoe 2x per week for now since I'm still pretty tired after work on most days, not to mention having to do physical work the day after a workout when I'm sore. BTW I keep my feet still when I bench but I'll try to get you guys a video.
Kerpal - Thanks. I'm looking forward to hitting the 2x bw deadlift.
Stallion - Yeah I've always used alternate grip. But I know for a fact, and already knew this from lifting random heavy household things and stuff, that my grip strength is very weak. I think if I stop making gains in my deadlift soon it will be because my hands can't take it anymore, not because my body can't.
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What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.
You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.
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Progress!
Starting with June 1st I decided to weigh myself and measure myself on the 1st of every month to see how I've grown in the past month. Here are my new numbers.
BTW I weigh myself first thing in the morning, after going to the washroom but before eating. Apparently this is the most accurate way, and I didn't know this at the start of the thread when I said I weighed 133 - that was really just an average since I was 129 in the morning and 136 or so in the evening.
Weight May 1: 129 lbs
Weight June 1: 133 lbs
Weight July 1: 138 lbs
Gained 5 pounds in the last month.
I measured myself May 24th and want to do that every month as well. This is my growth since then. I need to measure more muscles though, unfortunately I only did those 2 measurements on the 24th just because someone asked me to do only them.
Arms May 24: 12.0"
Arms July 1: 12.5"
Thighs May 24: 19.5"
Thighs July 1: 20.75"
Decent gains... I wish I had measured my calves because they are looking a lot bigger and I want to confirm. All in all I've seen a little bit of growth in my upper body but more growth in my legs.
Anyway that's all for now. I went away for the long weekend so I couldn't train at all, but I'll be working out 2x per week now for sure.
Starting with June 1st I decided to weigh myself and measure myself on the 1st of every month to see how I've grown in the past month. Here are my new numbers.
BTW I weigh myself first thing in the morning, after going to the washroom but before eating. Apparently this is the most accurate way, and I didn't know this at the start of the thread when I said I weighed 133 - that was really just an average since I was 129 in the morning and 136 or so in the evening.
Weight May 1: 129 lbs
Weight June 1: 133 lbs
Weight July 1: 138 lbs
Gained 5 pounds in the last month.
I measured myself May 24th and want to do that every month as well. This is my growth since then. I need to measure more muscles though, unfortunately I only did those 2 measurements on the 24th just because someone asked me to do only them.
Arms May 24: 12.0"
Arms July 1: 12.5"
Thighs May 24: 19.5"
Thighs July 1: 20.75"
Decent gains... I wish I had measured my calves because they are looking a lot bigger and I want to confirm. All in all I've seen a little bit of growth in my upper body but more growth in my legs.
Anyway that's all for now. I went away for the long weekend so I couldn't train at all, but I'll be working out 2x per week now for sure.
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Quagmire911
Master Don Juan
Congrats, keep it up!
I-tallionStallion
Master Don Juan
Great job dude. Do waist measurements too
Thanks guys!
WEDNESDAY
Squat 3 x 5 PR
8 x 45 (bar)
5 x 95
3 x 135
1 x 165
5 x 195
5 x 195
5 x 195
Nice progress still... almost at 200!
Standing Military Press 3 x 5
8 x 45 (bar)
5 x 105
5 x 105
4 x 105
Regressed from last time, this is a tough exercise...
Pendlay Rows 3 x 5 PR
5 x 120
5 x 120
5 x 120
Weighted Dips 2 x 8 PR --> Should have been Chin ups 2 x 8
8 x 50
8 x 50
I just realized I did dips instead of chin ups, mistake. It went well but this isn't a hard routine to memorize and I don't know how I forgot.
Solid workout though, other than my poor military press.
WEDNESDAY
Squat 3 x 5 PR
8 x 45 (bar)
5 x 95
3 x 135
1 x 165
5 x 195
5 x 195
5 x 195
Nice progress still... almost at 200!
Standing Military Press 3 x 5
8 x 45 (bar)
5 x 105
5 x 105
4 x 105
Regressed from last time, this is a tough exercise...
Pendlay Rows 3 x 5 PR
5 x 120
5 x 120
5 x 120
Weighted Dips 2 x 8 PR --> Should have been Chin ups 2 x 8
8 x 50
8 x 50
I just realized I did dips instead of chin ups, mistake. It went well but this isn't a hard routine to memorize and I don't know how I forgot.
Solid workout though, other than my poor military press.
Quagmire911
Master Don Juan
Your military press is actually pretty decent for how long you have been working out.
Now about that grip. In my opinion everyone should be training grip directly, cause from what I have seen if you don't you are screwed. A strong grip is vital. On that note, I recommend you work on crushing grip and pinch grip. Therer are three types of grip, the two I just mentioned and "supporting grip" which is stuff like gripping the bar on the deadlift.
I would highly recommend getting a captains of crush gripper, I think they are $10 in the US although I am not sure. I am in the UK and they are still only £20. The "trainer" is a good gripper to start on. If you can't afford one, then look at this article:
Do something like farmers walk two sets, and then door grab for two sets. If you get a gripper you would do something like 2sets each hand on the gripper and then door grab for two sets.
Keep it up!
Now about that grip. In my opinion everyone should be training grip directly, cause from what I have seen if you don't you are screwed. A strong grip is vital. On that note, I recommend you work on crushing grip and pinch grip. Therer are three types of grip, the two I just mentioned and "supporting grip" which is stuff like gripping the bar on the deadlift.
I would highly recommend getting a captains of crush gripper, I think they are $10 in the US although I am not sure. I am in the UK and they are still only £20. The "trainer" is a good gripper to start on. If you can't afford one, then look at this article:
Do something like farmers walk two sets, and then door grab for two sets. If you get a gripper you would do something like 2sets each hand on the gripper and then door grab for two sets.
Keep it up!
I looked up the captains of crush gripper and am definitely interested in getting one, looking at the difference between them I think the trainer is probably going to be enough of a challenge for me right now. I really want to improve my grip strength...Quagmire911 said:
Where do you order them from online? I see Amazon.com has them for 20 bucks which sounds alright (plus $7 shipping to Canada), anyone know if there's another site that has them cheaper?
Amazing day!
SATURDAY
I really didn't want to go to the gym today but I forced myself to go. Not that I don't like going, but I drank last night and only got a few hours of sleep because I had to get up early. I thought today was going to be a brutal day at the gym but I couldn't have been more wrong...
Squat 3 x 5 PR
8 x 45 (bar)
5 x 95
3 x 135
1 x 165
1 x 195
5 x 205
5 x 205
5 x 205
Hit 200!!! I was feeling really good in my warmup and thought I would PR. So I did 1 x 195 just to make sure that weight wasn't too heavy and then moved up to my PR of 200, or so I thought. When I took the weights off I realized that I had actually added 10 pounds instead of 5 (dumb me, switched a 5 for a 10 on each side, that's 10 pound increase)... I almost $hit my pants!
Bench Press 3 x 5 PR
8 x 45 (bar)
5 x 95
5 x 145
4 x 145
4 x 145
Moved up to 145, really tough though, gonna have to stick with 145 at least once more.
Deadlift 1 x 5
1 x 135
1 x 185
5 x 235
After reading Quag's deadlift thread and watching the video I realized my feet weren't far enough under the bar. I corrected my form and I think it's good now but maybe I'll get a video or something so you guys can see. My hands were killing me though, I'm ordering a CoC trainer gripper and that should help.
Weighted Dips 2 x 8 PR
8 x 55
8 x 55
All in all a great day! I should drink the night before a workout more often...
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BTW I guess size results are starting to get noticeable, I noticed only slight increases in my upper body but that's because I see myself every day. Yesterday one of my friends randomly told me I looked "chiseled" and another girl asked me when I got "jacked". I'm not bragging or anything, I know I'm far from chiseled or jacked, but it's nice to see that there may be more growth than I give myself credit for.
Sorry for the long reads guys, I like to make these long posts so I can look back later on and know what I was thinking and how I felt at this point in my training.
SATURDAY
I really didn't want to go to the gym today but I forced myself to go. Not that I don't like going, but I drank last night and only got a few hours of sleep because I had to get up early. I thought today was going to be a brutal day at the gym but I couldn't have been more wrong...
Squat 3 x 5 PR
8 x 45 (bar)
5 x 95
3 x 135
1 x 165
1 x 195
5 x 205
5 x 205
5 x 205
Hit 200!!! I was feeling really good in my warmup and thought I would PR. So I did 1 x 195 just to make sure that weight wasn't too heavy and then moved up to my PR of 200, or so I thought. When I took the weights off I realized that I had actually added 10 pounds instead of 5 (dumb me, switched a 5 for a 10 on each side, that's 10 pound increase)... I almost $hit my pants!
Bench Press 3 x 5 PR
8 x 45 (bar)
5 x 95
5 x 145
4 x 145
4 x 145
Moved up to 145, really tough though, gonna have to stick with 145 at least once more.
Deadlift 1 x 5
1 x 135
1 x 185
5 x 235
After reading Quag's deadlift thread and watching the video I realized my feet weren't far enough under the bar. I corrected my form and I think it's good now but maybe I'll get a video or something so you guys can see. My hands were killing me though, I'm ordering a CoC trainer gripper and that should help.
Weighted Dips 2 x 8 PR
8 x 55
8 x 55
All in all a great day! I should drink the night before a workout more often...
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BTW I guess size results are starting to get noticeable, I noticed only slight increases in my upper body but that's because I see myself every day. Yesterday one of my friends randomly told me I looked "chiseled" and another girl asked me when I got "jacked". I'm not bragging or anything, I know I'm far from chiseled or jacked, but it's nice to see that there may be more growth than I give myself credit for.
Sorry for the long reads guys, I like to make these long posts so I can look back later on and know what I was thinking and how I felt at this point in my training.
Quagmire911
Master Don Juan
Nice workout!
Get those videos!
Get those videos!
yungahdubz
Senior Don Juan
Nice lifts man, especially the dips.