"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Jahidi's Workout and Diet Journal
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Barbell Bench Press 3 x 5
165 x 5
170 x 5
165 x 5
After the first set, I thought I could move up to 170. My workout partner was a no-show today though so I had to get a spotter and he let me do 165x5 by myself but once I bumped it up to 170 he seemed to think I needed his help with the bar. Maybe I could have done 170x5 by myself, maybe not - it was pretty hard. So I went down to 165x5 again and had a different spotter who knew what he was doing. Next workout I'll try for 170x5 with my buddy (who knows how to spot) spotting me.
Incline Dumbbell Bench Press 4 x 8
60 x 8
55 x 8
55 x 8
55 x 8
I did 4x8x60 last time. Disappointing that I felt weaker this time.
Military Press 3 x 8
95 x 8
95 x 5
95 x 8
Not sure why it was so hard second set...maybe I should rest longer. Come to think of it I only rested for about 1-2 minutes in between those two sets.
Tricep Pushdowns 3 x 10
100 x 10
100 x 10
100 x 10
Russian Twists 3 x 10
35 x 10
35 x 10
35 x 10
Well, I weighed myself today and I was 141 pounds. I was 135 at the start and 137 when I switched to the simple starting diet. So that's a 4 pound gain in the 2 weeks since the switch. This isn't very accurate though since the only time I can weigh myself is at the gym and I've already been eating and whatnot.
Tomorrow I'm going to buy a scale and a tape measure and start posting more accurate measurements to go by.
Still felt great though to see that I'm gaining weight. Effort you're the man.
I-tallionStallion
Master Don Juan
Are you having precarbs and protein before a workout? You should have like 30-50 grams of carbs for energy. I generally used to do a two scoop whey shake with a half-1 cup brown rice.
MONDAY
Deadlift 3 x 5
285 x 5 PR
285 x 5
285 x 5
Going up nicely, 290x5 next time.
Leg Press 2 x 10
340 x 10 PR
340 x 10
Chin-ups 4 x 6
bw x 6
bw x 6
bw x 6
bw x 6
Hammer Curls 3 x 8
35 x 8
35 x 8
35 x 8
Machine Calf Raises 3 x 15
240 x 15
240 x 15
240 x 15
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
I-tallionStallion
Master Don Juan
Incline Bench Press 3 x 5
155 x 5
155 x 5
165 x 5
The good bench is fixed, but still no progress. My squat and deadlift are easily going up 5lbs each time but my bench press isn't improving at all. Any advice or should I just keep eating and be patient?
Dumbbell Bench Press 4 x 8
60 x 8
60 x 8
60 x 8
60 x 8
Well at least this felt a bit easier than last time.
DB Shoulder Press 3 x 8
40 x 8
45 x 8 PR
45 x 8
Tricep Pushdowns 3 x 10
10 x 100
10 x 100
10 x 100
This is getting easier, will do 110 next time.
Russian Twists 3 x 10
10 x 35
10 x 35
10 x 35
I couldn't get a power rack for military press because the football team was working out again. They take up all the power racks for their entire workouts. If I had to squat or deadlift, I'd leave and come back in an hour but not for military press. So I think I'm going to start going Tues/Thurs/Sat instead.
Anyway here are my last 2 workouts and then I'm back in the gym later today.
Wasn't really feeling it, I just didn't have the strength I normally would.
Squat 3 x 5
235 x 5
235 x 5
235 x 5
Well at least I got all the reps out this time but I was really hoping to get to 240. Next time for sure I'll get it.
Hyperextensions 3 x 10
60 x 10
60 x 10
60 x 10
Dumbbell Row 4 x 6
80 x 6
80 x 6
80 x 6
80 x 6
Dumbbell Curl 3 x 8
35 x 8
35 x 8
35 x 8
Machine Calf Raises 3 x 15
240 x 15
240 x 15
240 x 15
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Barbell Bench Press 3 x 5
165 x 5
165 x 5
165 x 5
Couldn't move up but it was easier.
Incline Dumbbell Bench Press 4 x 8
65 x 8 PR
65 x 8
65 x 8
65 x 8
Couldn't even do 60's for the 4 sets last time so this was a good improvement.
Military Press 3 x 8
95 x 8
95 x 8
95 x 8
Tricep Pushdowns 3 x 10
110 x 10 PR
110 x 10
110 x 10
Russian Twists 3 x 10
35 x 10
35 x 10
35 x 10
Deadlift 3 x 5
295 x 5 PR
295 x 5
295 x 5
10lbs increase. It seems like every time I do deadlifts it's exactly the same difficulty even though I'm putting weight on each time. It's great.
Leg Press 2 x 10
350 x 10 PR
350 x 10
Chin-ups 4 x 6
bw x 6
bw x 6
bw x 6
bw x 6
Hammer Curls 3 x 8
35 x 8
35 x 8
35 x 8
Machine Calf Raises 3 x 15
240 x 15
240 x 15
240 x 15
Incline Bench Press 3 x 5
155 x 5
155 x 5
155 x 5
I was never touching the bar to my chest before on incline, only on flat bench, so now that it's changed my numbers are a bit lower. I'll be able to do 160 next time though.
Dumbbell Bench Press 4 x 8
65 x 8 PR
65 x 8
65 x 8
65 x 8
Much better.
Military Press 3 x 8
95 x 8
95 x 8
95 x 8
Tricep Pushdowns 3 x 10
110 x 10
110 x 10
110 x 10
Russian Twists 3 x 10
35 x 10
35 x 10
35 x 10
Squat 3 x 5
240 x 5 PR
240 x 5
240 x 5
Got to 240 which finally beats last summer's 235. I love watching my squat and deadlift go up, those are my main motivations.
Hyperextensions 3 x 10
60 x 10
60 x 10
60 x 10
These are always hard even though I've stayed at 60 lately.
Dumbbell Row 4 x 6
80 x 6
80 x 6
80 x 6
80 x 6
Dumbbell Curl 3 x 8
35 x 8
35 x 8
35 x 8
Machine Calf Raises 3 x 15
240 x 15
240 x 15
240 x 15
Barbell Bench Press 3 x 5
165 x 5
165 x 5
165 x 5
Incline Dumbbell Bench Press 4 x 8
65 x 8
65 x 8
65 x 8
65 x 8
Same weight as last time, but felt better.
Military Press 3 x 8
95 x 8
100 x 8 PR
100 x 8
It felt like I could have even done 105, even though 95 was what I did last time. So this is good.
Tricep Pushdowns 3 x 10
110 x 10
110 x 10
110 x 10
Decline Weighted Situps 3 x 10
35 x 10
35 x 10
35 x 10
Back in the gym on Friday...gonna deadlift 300!
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Great workout today.
Deadlift 3 x 5
300 x 5 PR
300 x 5
300 x 5
This was pretty hard, but what should I expect, I'd never lifted anything that weighed 300 pounds before.
Leg Press 2 x 10
360 x 10 PR
360 x 10
Chin-ups 4 x 6
bw x 6
bw x 6
bw x 6
bw x 6
Hammer Curls 3 x 8
35 x 8
35 x 8
35 x 8
Machine Calf Raises 3 x 15
255 x 15 PR
255 x 15
255 x 15
Quagmire911
Master Don Juan
Lets get some videos!
I don't have anything to make a video with but I'll see if someone I know has a camera or something I can borrow. If it means anything, a guy came up to me when I was deadlifting and told me "my lifts look clean". I recognized him because he caught my eye (no homo lol) before since he's the only guy at the gym who trains the way this site preaches (ATG squatting, powerlifting, big 3, etc.). But yeah I'll see about getting a video.
TUESDAY
Terrible workout today. I felt like I was going to puke all day and I couldn't get nearly as much food down as I normally do, so that could be the problem. I feel better now though.
No PRs and nothing to talk about other than how I kept failing on weights that I did before without failure.
Incline Bench Press 3 x 5
155 x 5
160 x 5
160 x 5
Dumbbell Bench Press 4 x 8
65 x 8
65 x 8
65 x 7
65 x 6
Military Press 3 x 8
100 x 8
100 x 8
100 x 5
Tricep Pushdowns 3 x 10
110 x 10
110 x 10
110 x 10
Russian Twists 3 x 10
35 x 10
35 x 10
35 x 10
Much better workout after last workout was so terrible.
Squat 3 x 5
245 x 5 PR
245 x 5
245 x 5
This took everything I had. Not sure if I'll make it to 250 next time.
Hyperextensions 3 x 10
60 x 10
60 x 10
60 x 10
This was noticeably easier than last time, if I had known I'd do this well I would have moved up to 65. Next time.
Dumbbell Row 4 x 6
80 x 6
80 x 6
80 x 6
80 x 6
Dumbbell Curl 3 x 8
35 x 8
35 x 8
35 x 8
Machine Calf Raises 3 x 15
255 x 15
255 x 15
255 x 15
I've been doing this for 9 weeks now. I'm still feeling fine but do you guys think it's time for a deload? Or should I keep going until I start to get tired/weaker?
BTW I get the day off work tomorrow so I'll weigh myself in the morning and do a bunch of measurements. I've gained about 7-9 pounds so far but I'm going to start to go by measurements too.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.