sangheilios
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I've long been aware that women in general today are picky in regards to the men they go for but it was far worse than I thought originally.
I totally get why an attractive woman wouldn't go for a man who is obese, has poor hygiene, etc. However, I've also seen women have these ridiculous standards that are rather confusing to me.
This is a story I have shared on here, but I used to hang out with a guy that worked at a bank and he recanted a time where his coworkers set up one of the tellers on a date with someone they knew. They naturally asked her about the experience and she said she wasn't interested, to which they asked her why. She specifically stated that is was because he was overweight......but the irony is that she was fat herself lol.
Fairly recently I was having a conversation with a woman I know who is in her early 20s, she is a single mom and has physically declined for sure over the past year and is very average looking. She went on about what her "type" was and it was really specific, from the man's hair, skin tone, body type, etc. I really didn't care because she's not something I would personally consider but it was very odd to hear that.
Last year I did a social experiment on tinder and used photos from myself when I was in my early 20s, so between 21-23. I was and still am 6'4", very fit/athletically built, was definitely more handsome back then, though I still look very good for my age, etc. Anyway, I had some matches and then had these conversations where these women told me I wasn't their type. I naturally responded with a "a white man that is 6'4" in really good shape and is handsome isn't your type? Good luck".
Last year I had an average woman point out a fat woman around my age and tell me that was my league. I thought about that and wasn't sure if she was serious or not, but the idea hit me that if a white man that is 6'4" and in shape is supposed to date that what does she think of more average men?
In 2019 I went to a speed dating event, the idea popped into my mind when an older friend mentioned it and I was intrigued and wanted to give it a try. He wasn't able to go but I decided to follow through with it. Anyway, there were around 10 women, all were average and below, and out of all of them only 2 had any personality or were enjoyable to speak with. A few were full blown blatantly rude to me and I honestly left the experience regretting that I even went in the first place, which I genuinely was very angry over due to me looking forward to having a new and hopefully fun experience. It then dawned on me that there was a reason why these women were and probably still are single, which I'll get into below.
These women have a set of standards and are looking for combinations in men that I truly believe are impossible to find and naturally the result is these women are perpetually single. I now have this feeling that these women may be like this because they don't actually want a man and are doing this subconsciously. It's almost like they want to feel normal by trying to find a man but with their standards they can go back to their female friends and lament over how there are no good men left. I don't fully understand it but a feeling I get is that these standards are put in place to keep them alone in order to avoid getting hurt or disappointed. I also get the feeling that in some cases these women want to feel that they are victims of life and attain some sort of odd gratification from having other women tell them how hard their life is because they can't find a man. I also get the feeling that many of these women simply don't know what they want in life, due to both their own internal issues as well as those relating to the social programming they've had.
The main issue I see is you have a bunch of unhappy people, both men and women. Women have through their own behavior made themselves unavailable, whether or not they even realize this is uncertain. As the years pass they become increasingly lonely and unhappy and given enough time will find themselves permanently locked into this frame of existence. Men will often find that it is hard to get much of anything and will find themselves lonely as well, though not due to their own behavior. Some men will fight for the left over scraps and disregard any sense of personal standards with the women they are going for. Others will just accept that what they are looking for just isn't available but will move on with life and focus on other things, though naturally they will not be entirely happy unless they can completely let go of the desire to have a dating/sex life.
I totally get why an attractive woman wouldn't go for a man who is obese, has poor hygiene, etc. However, I've also seen women have these ridiculous standards that are rather confusing to me.
This is a story I have shared on here, but I used to hang out with a guy that worked at a bank and he recanted a time where his coworkers set up one of the tellers on a date with someone they knew. They naturally asked her about the experience and she said she wasn't interested, to which they asked her why. She specifically stated that is was because he was overweight......but the irony is that she was fat herself lol.
Fairly recently I was having a conversation with a woman I know who is in her early 20s, she is a single mom and has physically declined for sure over the past year and is very average looking. She went on about what her "type" was and it was really specific, from the man's hair, skin tone, body type, etc. I really didn't care because she's not something I would personally consider but it was very odd to hear that.
Last year I did a social experiment on tinder and used photos from myself when I was in my early 20s, so between 21-23. I was and still am 6'4", very fit/athletically built, was definitely more handsome back then, though I still look very good for my age, etc. Anyway, I had some matches and then had these conversations where these women told me I wasn't their type. I naturally responded with a "a white man that is 6'4" in really good shape and is handsome isn't your type? Good luck".
Last year I had an average woman point out a fat woman around my age and tell me that was my league. I thought about that and wasn't sure if she was serious or not, but the idea hit me that if a white man that is 6'4" and in shape is supposed to date that what does she think of more average men?
In 2019 I went to a speed dating event, the idea popped into my mind when an older friend mentioned it and I was intrigued and wanted to give it a try. He wasn't able to go but I decided to follow through with it. Anyway, there were around 10 women, all were average and below, and out of all of them only 2 had any personality or were enjoyable to speak with. A few were full blown blatantly rude to me and I honestly left the experience regretting that I even went in the first place, which I genuinely was very angry over due to me looking forward to having a new and hopefully fun experience. It then dawned on me that there was a reason why these women were and probably still are single, which I'll get into below.
These women have a set of standards and are looking for combinations in men that I truly believe are impossible to find and naturally the result is these women are perpetually single. I now have this feeling that these women may be like this because they don't actually want a man and are doing this subconsciously. It's almost like they want to feel normal by trying to find a man but with their standards they can go back to their female friends and lament over how there are no good men left. I don't fully understand it but a feeling I get is that these standards are put in place to keep them alone in order to avoid getting hurt or disappointed. I also get the feeling that in some cases these women want to feel that they are victims of life and attain some sort of odd gratification from having other women tell them how hard their life is because they can't find a man. I also get the feeling that many of these women simply don't know what they want in life, due to both their own internal issues as well as those relating to the social programming they've had.
The main issue I see is you have a bunch of unhappy people, both men and women. Women have through their own behavior made themselves unavailable, whether or not they even realize this is uncertain. As the years pass they become increasingly lonely and unhappy and given enough time will find themselves permanently locked into this frame of existence. Men will often find that it is hard to get much of anything and will find themselves lonely as well, though not due to their own behavior. Some men will fight for the left over scraps and disregard any sense of personal standards with the women they are going for. Others will just accept that what they are looking for just isn't available but will move on with life and focus on other things, though naturally they will not be entirely happy unless they can completely let go of the desire to have a dating/sex life.
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