"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I've ruined my life for my oneitis

styleman

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My oneites had lead me on, and shown me hope for five years... and this had lead to the ruin of my life...
I was a rich man, lived in a large house in the centre of London, drove the best cars, drank the best wine, and ate the finest food.
However, I did not work for the last four years due to devotion to my oneitis, and now I am bankrupt.
No joke.... any advice?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Interceptor

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Too vague, man.

What are you trying to accomplish?

What are your goals?

Start by defining who you are and what you want.

Have you even read the Book of Pook?


We can only truly help when you take the initiative and HELP YOURSELF.
 

The Deacon

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My oneites had lead me on, and shown me hope for five years... and this had lead to the ruin of my life...
I was a rich man, lived in a large house in the centre of London, drove the best cars, drank the best wine, and ate the finest food.
However, I did not work for the last four years due to devotion to my oneitis, and now I am bankrupt.
No joke.... any advice?
HOLY shizzle. The best advice I can give you is to let her go so the healing can begin.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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bigjohnson

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This bent the needle on my BS detector. You expect me to believe a guy who can be focused enough to become wealthy and successful in most aspects of life would then need to turn to a random Internet dating advice forum for advice in fixing his life?

Suuuure.
 

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How dare you call yourself 'styleman'

Get up! .

Money goes and money comes. Stupidity goes and wisdom comes.
 

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I agree withe some people but not as mean though, I say you are getting a second chance because you finally let her go and learned the error of your ways. I say just get a new job if you already had all those things then you should be able to get a good job pretty fast and get all those things back and after that .....well I'll let you figure that out Good LUCK!
 

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Wow, I would never pick women over money... Business first, pleasure second.
 

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Come on guys, it's a troll, and not a very good one at that.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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bigjohnson said:
Come on guys, it's a troll, and not a very good one at that.

You're a troll. Shut your mouth. :down:

It's a new year, and I don't know about you, but one of my resolution is to remove all playa haters from my life. You are very close to being put on ignore list.
 

I.A.F.Y.B.

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It's a shame to hear that. People in my family had it all at once then, lost it. It wasn't because of women but, none the less. You gotta get back on your feet and start out fresh. Let this be a lesson to you.
 

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Mr. Wolf said:
You're a troll. Shut your mouth. :down:

It's a new year, and I don't know about you, but one of my resolution is to remove all playa haters from my life. You are very close to being put on ignore list.
haha you are funny.. immediate smack down on people.. anyways that's a good resolution.. hope the poster can successfully remove her from his life.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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bigjohnson said:
This bent the needle on my BS detector. You expect me to believe a guy who can be focused enough to become wealthy and successful in most aspects of life would then need to turn to a random Internet dating advice forum for advice in fixing his life?

Suuuure.
Exactly.

This topic is a gigantic pile of monkey crap to quote The Rock.
 

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styleman said:
My oneites had lead me on, and shown me hope for five years... and this had lead to the ruin of my life...
I was a rich man, lived in a large house in the centre of London, drove the best cars, drank the best wine, and ate the finest food.
However, I did not work for the last four years due to devotion to my oneitis, and now I am bankrupt.
No joke.... any advice?
Let's break this down, shall we?


styleman said:
I was a rich man, lived in a large house in the centre of London
No idea what a great apartment in London costs but it sounds high - any of you 'blokes' care to enlighten us?

styleman said:
.... drove the best cars ...
So this is more than one but not specified, let's say 3 'best of cars' would be about $2,000,000 USD or so. To drive 2 million worth of cars a person would have to have a net worth of several times that much if they were at all balanced in life.


styleman said:
.... drank the best wine, and ate the finest food. ....
So this is an expensive lifestyle too, probably a few thousand a week for the drinks alone and food more, call it $4000 a week for 5 years is another cool million on food and drink. Again to have those tastes one would likely have more than that million floating around.


And all this while unemployed.


So a guy has the ability to make a small fortune, spends it on a gold digger and comes to a pickup and dating WEBSITE for advice, and some of you believe it?



Wow.
 

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AFC Savior

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due to how vague the thread it, i say that its the following:

this guy is being sarcastic and trying to crack a joke on all the chumps out there~!!!
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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