"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I've realized what my problem is.

sportguy

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It finally hit me last night what my major problem is with women...

I don't have problem meeting them or even chatting them up. My problem is I get too damn exited when texting them and always answer their texts right away. And I even when I know I should ignore them, or not answer their phone calls/texts, I still do regardless.

Of course, I only do this with girls I'm interested in. The ones who I don't care about or who I hooked up with and ditched, I always ignore them which leads them to chase me.

From this day on, no more of that ****.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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MisterD

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Yes (unfortunately) if you treat the chicks you're interested in the same way as the ones you're not interested in, it opens you up to a new world
 

JPlaya

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MisterD said:
Yes (unfortunately) if you treat the chicks you're interested in the same way as the ones you're not interested in, it opens you up to a new world
that
 

Matthew Lyon

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I can certainly agree to an extent of the responses here about treating the pretty ones like you would the less attractive ones, but it really comes down to enjoying your own life without them and that way you won't feel the need to always check your phone. Enjoyment (In joy) of your own life. That's where the difference is made from the guys who are too available and the ones who are not.
 

floydb25

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This is a problem a LOT of people have, so no need to feel bad. I talk to friends, acquaintances, and strangers who say the same thing constantly. It's just natural to put more effort into someone you like. But, it always backfires. Self-control is a must. Realizing this is a huge step.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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