"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I've realized what my problem is.

sportguy

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It finally hit me last night what my major problem is with women...

I don't have problem meeting them or even chatting them up. My problem is I get too damn exited when texting them and always answer their texts right away. And I even when I know I should ignore them, or not answer their phone calls/texts, I still do regardless.

Of course, I only do this with girls I'm interested in. The ones who I don't care about or who I hooked up with and ditched, I always ignore them which leads them to chase me.

From this day on, no more of that ****.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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MisterD

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Yes (unfortunately) if you treat the chicks you're interested in the same way as the ones you're not interested in, it opens you up to a new world
 

JPlaya

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MisterD said:
Yes (unfortunately) if you treat the chicks you're interested in the same way as the ones you're not interested in, it opens you up to a new world
that
 

Matthew Lyon

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I can certainly agree to an extent of the responses here about treating the pretty ones like you would the less attractive ones, but it really comes down to enjoying your own life without them and that way you won't feel the need to always check your phone. Enjoyment (In joy) of your own life. That's where the difference is made from the guys who are too available and the ones who are not.
 

floydb25

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This is a problem a LOT of people have, so no need to feel bad. I talk to friends, acquaintances, and strangers who say the same thing constantly. It's just natural to put more effort into someone you like. But, it always backfires. Self-control is a must. Realizing this is a huge step.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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