“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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John11276

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I noticed something about myself the other night while out at a bar. I noticed that I have started taking some advice from this board to heart without actually thinking about it. What am I talking about? Well I went out on a date with a really awsome girl a few weeks back. The date went well, probally could go down as one of the best I've ever had. I've been on tons, trust me. Anyway the next week rolls around and I try to get in touch with her a couple of times, she leaves a message and appoligizes for not getting back to me and the reason she was so busy. It was valid, so I decided to wait a while to call again.

Anyway, I live out of town and my initial plan was to try to get up with her b/c I was going to be in her town for Father's Day. We never caught up, but did run into each other at a bar. I was with a large group of friends, 10 I think. She was with 5. We pass each other in the crowd and she says "I was wondering if I would run into you." That could have been good or bad at that point. We talked and she said she was going to be back. Later on I walked to the back of the bar and there she was with her table of friends. We started talking and she asked what had I done this weekend. I went into this whole deal about biking and camping and correlated it back to the hardest things in life have the best payoff. I then tell her that I need to get back to my friends. OK, a little later she's behind me and we talk for a minute. I bust the arm touch on her and tell her I'll see her in a little while.

A funny thing, as soon as this girl saw that I could walk away from her her IL shot through the roof. Everytime I passed her in the crowd from that point on she would touch me. At one point I made myself brush against her and I said "I was trying to run into you" she returned "that's fine with me." She then wanted to meet my friends and wanted me to point out where we were hanging out at. She wanted to watch me I'm sure. Anyway, I asked her what weekend she was free and she immidiately said "next one" with eyes wide. I suggested that we go do something fun, a hike. I mentioned that we would be getting hot and sweaty and she seems down. I haven't tried to call since setting it up, but tonight I have to. I wanted to try yesterday, but I went with my gut and opted for today. I think the mystery/challenge game is starting up.
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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Walking away IS a very powerful tool. It says, "I don't need you to define my life or to validate my success or failure. Whether or not we 'hook up' is not a sign of winning or losing. I'm my own man with my own life. You can either choose to be a part of that life, or you can choose not to."

It's being able to do this with a friendly smile and a confident attitude that makes all the difference.

Not something I've mastered yet. But I'm getting better at it.
 

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But it wasn't like I was trying to, it just happened. At the end of the night she gave me a humongous hug as I left to go to another bar with my friends. I just looked at her and said "I'll talke to you real soon." Great chick so far man, I haven't thought about dating anyone in a serious manner in over two years. I have to play this one right.
 
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