"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I've invited a girl over - anyone got any advice/tips?

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Hey people, as the title says i've invited a girl over to my place. Now i'm not completely clueless (i've improved a lot since watching Tim's RSD videos - i can't recommend them enough), however this is the first time i would have had a girl over like this. If anyone's got any advice on things to do/not to do that'd be helpful. I wouldn't wanna be kicking myself the day after for not thinking of something basic.

I know this is a pretty general question but even answers like 'watch a movie' will do.

Ps. I'm already aware to be relaxed and have fun :)
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Clean house, bathroom, have food, Get a few drinks in etc. Focus on the moment, your aim is to enjoy YOURSELF.

She is attracted to you wants you, thats why she is coming over. Your job is not to impress her but too find out what she has to offer you and is she worth your time.
 

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Remember: cat strings theory. Don't act like you have too much storage ready to release... also remember not to act like it is Bob that is coming over.
 

I.A.F.Y.B.

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What kind of items do you have in your house for entertainment?
 

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If you have a really strong frame and already have some rapport happening between you two, this is what I do for every girl that I let come over (Even the ones I don't want to go any further with).

As soon as they are at your door let them in, turn around and put your hand behind your back as if for them to grab it. Grab their hand and pull them along and playfully give them a tour of your 'great mansion,' ending with the most magnificent room of all....Yours!

I love this, initiates kino and makes the mood instantly playful and fun! Most girls will LOVE it.

Show her a few rooms she can't go in no MATTER WHAT! (Could even do it to yours if you want), and it will make it mysterious and fun. I always tell girls they can NEVER look in my wardrobe and if they do I'll have to KILL them! Most of them end up trying to snoop in there it is quite the laugh.

Make sure your room and bathroom is tidy, and be hospitable. Invite them into the kitchen and show them the array of drinks you have on tap. Put some ice in their too.

Make everything you do is fun and you can literally do nothing but walk around your house and play around.

Good luck :)
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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