"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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I've hung out with this chick three times and it's hard to make things sexy

Obameros

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I'm going to her house and she's going to cook me dinner and I want to spice it up a bit, I haven't made any advancements, for all she knows I just want to be friends. There are girls who its really easy to get the sexual vibes going, and there are girls who it's almost impossible. This is the latter, but I'm so into this chick romantically that I want to get the fire started. We are both really friendly and nice, I'm used to banging chicks who are usually a little more forward.


Any Advice? So far I'm thinking of getting a little tipsy beforehand to loosen myself up.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Mike32ct

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Greet her at the door with a hug at a MINIMUM. Ideally give her a very light kiss on the cheek just as a greeting.

After dinner, suggest tv or a movie. Sit on the couch right next to her. Then you can take baby steps to escalate.

1. Lay your hand on top of hers during the movie/tv.

2. Assuming she doesn't pull away, gently massage the top of her hand with your fingertips. Then stop. Then start again. You won't believe how much this can get her tingly.

3. Later gently rest your hand on her thigh, just above her knee. Massage it with your fingertips in the same way, by making little circles.

4. Finally, look right at her. She will turn to look at you.

5. Brush her hair off the side of her face with your fingertips.

6. Go for the kiss. Just lips first. She'll open her mouth when she's ready for a makeout.

You know the rest. Good luck bro.

If there is a way to include alcohol with dinner, that will help but is not essential.

Obameros said:
I'm going to her house and she's going to cook me dinner and I want to spice it up a bit, I haven't made any advancements, for all she knows I just want to be friends. There are girls who its really easy to get the sexual vibes going, and there are girls who it's almost impossible. This is the latter, but I'm so into this chick romantically that I want to get the fire started. We are both really friendly and nice, I'm used to banging chicks who are usually a little more forward.


Any Advice? So far I'm thinking of getting a little tipsy beforehand to loosen myself up.
 

shizz702

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You already know what to do now just implement it. If it doesn't work out don't beat yourself up over it, remember sometimes the chemistry just isn't there and if she rejects your advances, oh well, it's her loss. Sometimes there will be ones where it just isn't there and you know it ain't worth your time, if you like her make your move and see where it takes you.
 
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