I've gotten the same speech twice in almost as many months...

[JCballin88]

So I've been talking to this girl in a new city that I'm living in for the summer. A few weeks ago broke up with her b/f of a couple years, and since then had seemingly taken much more interest in hanging out with ME. I thought "that's fine, I know it's a bit of a rebound, but let's see what happens." I have a couple other girls I had been talking to as well, but this one soon turned into my favorite (I know that's probably a mistake.)

Anyways I thought things were getting serious with this chick when she always happily comes over to where I'm house-sitting. She invited me to the drive-in a few nights ago, and has talked several times about wanting to go camping up at this remote lake you have to hike to.

So last night she came over and we had a great time building a fire and cooking food, and finished it up with a movie where I manned up and kissed her afterwards. I stood up to help her get going since it was late, and she called me back to the couch where I literally heard the same thing I heard from another chick a few months ago. It basically went like this:

"Hey I just wanted you to know that I've had a great time hanging out with you and everything, but I'm still in that weird stage where I'm not used to being independent again, and I want to really get on my own feet here. I mean you're a great guy and I love doing things with you, but I'm just not back to 'normal' although you've been really great helping me get there. Do you know what I mean?" (Me - stunned nod....) (Her) "Can I have a hug?"

WtF is going on here? I mean why the **** would she invite me to remote lakes and cuddle me on a couch only to literally turn in my face and give me the "LJBF" bull****? Also, what do I do from here? I see her at work nearly every day although I don't actually work with her.

 

[Son of anarchy]

She invited you there cause she want you to f**k her but she is just not confortable with the idea of "share the guilt".
So her words tell you to stop but her behaviour and the environment she invited you tell to go ahead.
I suggest you to advance,as long as she dont scream of course because if that make no difference for you,it will for a judge.

 

[Nutz]

Sounds like she wants NSA sex. You were supposed to take the lead, reassure her nothing serious would happen, like you getting attached, and make her comfortable. Women want sex. It's your job to unlock them so they want to have sex with you. It sounds like she did, but you failed the subtext sh!t test of reassuring her it's nothing serious.

 

[JCballin88]

Yeah...looking back I should have said something like "well we could still have fun and keep it totally casual..." But I honestly was too ****ed up in the head when I was trying to process her trying to explain to me what she's going through.