"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I've got one-it-is bad.

Scars

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But atleast I've identified it pretty quick. I've found myself getting jealous over really nonsense things. Like hearing about her being on another guys shoulders and drinking around guys she used to like. I used to not care, and had pretty strong inner game, and she used to be under my belt. Used to text me everyday telling me she misses me and cares about me, always initiated everything.. but now it's feeling like the tables are turning. But the sucking thing is, this only happened because I just went through a rough period of my life. I got kicked out of my house and had nowhere to go. I was house hoping, getting drunk every night.. crashing out anywhere I could find... sometime parks. But I was never allowed to stay at her house cause of her mom.. and during that time I got really emo and like spilled a lot of my guts and emotions to her... but honestly, could you blame me. I had like been abandoned and needed somebody, and she was all I really had to talk to. She says she still cares about me and stuff, and she's sorry I'm going through a bad time.. but she's starting to get distant. I can't tell if it's because im turning into an AFC ***** with OIS or if she just feels like I need my space. But it really sucks right now.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Scars said:
But atleast I've identified it pretty quick. I've found myself getting jealous over really nonsense things. Like hearing about her being on another guys shoulders and drinking around guys she used to like. I used to not care, and had pretty strong inner game, and she used to be under my belt. Used to text me everyday telling me she misses me and cares about me, always initiated everything.. but now it's feeling like the tables are turning. But the sucking thing is, this only happened because I just went through a rough period of my life. I got kicked out of my house and had nowhere to go. I was house hoping, getting drunk every night.. crashing out anywhere I could find... sometime parks. But I was never allowed to stay at her house cause of her mom.. and during that time I got really emo and like spilled a lot of my guts and emotions to her... but honestly, could you blame me. I had like been abandoned and needed somebody, and she was all I really had to talk to. She says she still cares about me and stuff, and she's sorry I'm going through a bad time.. but she's starting to get distant. I can't tell if it's because im turning into an AFC ***** with OIS or if she just feels like I need my space. But it really sucks right now.

Dude, I totally understand where you're coming from. When women are having troubles, they expect you to move Heaven and earth for them. They expect you to sit for hours listening to them whine about their circumstances. Yet when the tables are turned, I guarantee you they will act the total opposite. They will immediately view you as weak and lose interest.

She showed how she felt about you by how she's acting. I know it's hard and I know you want to make almost every excuse in the book for her, but you got to let it go.

Good luck bro.
 

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Honestly bro, if some chick was homeless and drinking all the time, how would you react? I don't know about you, but I don't think I would want to be with a homeless woman and I don't even think my standards are that high!

I'd definitely fix my life ASAP if I were you, and hopefully you already have (ether that or you're typing from the library). The chick sounds like the least of the problems.
 
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