"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I've got one-it-is bad.

Scars

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But atleast I've identified it pretty quick. I've found myself getting jealous over really nonsense things. Like hearing about her being on another guys shoulders and drinking around guys she used to like. I used to not care, and had pretty strong inner game, and she used to be under my belt. Used to text me everyday telling me she misses me and cares about me, always initiated everything.. but now it's feeling like the tables are turning. But the sucking thing is, this only happened because I just went through a rough period of my life. I got kicked out of my house and had nowhere to go. I was house hoping, getting drunk every night.. crashing out anywhere I could find... sometime parks. But I was never allowed to stay at her house cause of her mom.. and during that time I got really emo and like spilled a lot of my guts and emotions to her... but honestly, could you blame me. I had like been abandoned and needed somebody, and she was all I really had to talk to. She says she still cares about me and stuff, and she's sorry I'm going through a bad time.. but she's starting to get distant. I can't tell if it's because im turning into an AFC ***** with OIS or if she just feels like I need my space. But it really sucks right now.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Scars said:
But atleast I've identified it pretty quick. I've found myself getting jealous over really nonsense things. Like hearing about her being on another guys shoulders and drinking around guys she used to like. I used to not care, and had pretty strong inner game, and she used to be under my belt. Used to text me everyday telling me she misses me and cares about me, always initiated everything.. but now it's feeling like the tables are turning. But the sucking thing is, this only happened because I just went through a rough period of my life. I got kicked out of my house and had nowhere to go. I was house hoping, getting drunk every night.. crashing out anywhere I could find... sometime parks. But I was never allowed to stay at her house cause of her mom.. and during that time I got really emo and like spilled a lot of my guts and emotions to her... but honestly, could you blame me. I had like been abandoned and needed somebody, and she was all I really had to talk to. She says she still cares about me and stuff, and she's sorry I'm going through a bad time.. but she's starting to get distant. I can't tell if it's because im turning into an AFC ***** with OIS or if she just feels like I need my space. But it really sucks right now.

Dude, I totally understand where you're coming from. When women are having troubles, they expect you to move Heaven and earth for them. They expect you to sit for hours listening to them whine about their circumstances. Yet when the tables are turned, I guarantee you they will act the total opposite. They will immediately view you as weak and lose interest.

She showed how she felt about you by how she's acting. I know it's hard and I know you want to make almost every excuse in the book for her, but you got to let it go.

Good luck bro.
 

everywomanshero

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Honestly bro, if some chick was homeless and drinking all the time, how would you react? I don't know about you, but I don't think I would want to be with a homeless woman and I don't even think my standards are that high!

I'd definitely fix my life ASAP if I were you, and hopefully you already have (ether that or you're typing from the library). The chick sounds like the least of the problems.
 
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