"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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cNfny

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as a "flirt"

what does this mean? i almost don't like it haha. seems like i'm considered not serious sexually? i could be wrong here?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Bvbidd

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Belive me, that's a lot better than the reputation some of us get after reading too much Gunwitch. ;)
 

young_gun

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Better than "harmless nice guy".
 
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It means you are asking everybody out like some retarded broken record, happens when you play the numbers game in a confined environment where people know other people and you got turned down by one or more people in that environment as 'this is the guy who asked me out too....'

Try going to another group to ask another girl out.
 

cNfny

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It means you are asking everybody out like some retarded broken record
i never ask any girl out from around here, and all the guys they know from the area are losers who sugar coat their feelings.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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amoka

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What exactly was said to you?
"You must have reputation as a flirt?" or "You have a reputation as a flirt" or variation of the two above! Give us more information to process.
 

cNfny

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i was speaking to a girl and during one of our conversations she said "i've heard about you, that you're a flirt"

she wouldnt say anymore about it
 

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cNfny said:
i never ask any girl out from around here, and all the guys they know from the area are losers who sugar coat their feelings.
He's a virgin, so take his advise on women with a grain of salt.
 

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Haha I'm not a virgin. I tend to get with girls outside my dating circle and living radius where people aren't so familiar with each other even by faces.

This is why I found it peculiar I'd have that rep around here. I also don't know what to think of it pertaining to how girls view guys as "flirts"
 

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ur a flirt ok . now switch it up next time you see the same group of girls dont be a flirt idk drop a level just keep it on casual convo dont flirt then they will see the real you . then they will be more on u
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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"I heard you're a flirt."


I heard you're serious and rigit all the time.. Is that really true?


"Not really."


Are you a fun, exciding person?


"Of course."


Cool.. Because I only hang out with fun, exciding people.. Hmmmm, tell me more about yourself?
 

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cNfny said:
i was speaking to a girl and during one of our conversations she said "i've heard about you, that you're a flirt" she wouldnt say anymore about it
This simply means what Luke said. She must have heard from someone of your flirtacious behaviour. Else, she found you attractive and is trying to "pick you up".
 

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Bvbidd said:
Belive me, that's a lot better than the reputation some of us get after reading too much Gunwitch. ;)
:crackup: So true... :up:
 
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