Ive Come to Terms with myself

[NSUballer]

In this fast paced world we live in its hard to concentrate on women when we have so many other things on our plates. Im in college and play footbal. Those two alone are very time consuming. Then add work during the summer and its almost impossible to have a serious relationship with someone.

Ive been playin the field for a while and had a few not so serious GFs. I really dont like chasing women around and playin their stupid games just to get some sex or a GF. I hate being alone, meaning I hate not having a girl around to hang out with/sleep with, and do things with. But Ive met so many girls and very few are actually worth putting time and effort. Im only 20 and have alot of growing up to do. I have things I want to accomplish for myself. I love to go out with my friends and mack on the HBs in the club/bar because its fun. But most of these girls are simply retarded. For instance this girl I met a few weeks ago, we ended up hanging out alot last week and even slept at each others house 3 nights in a row(no sex bc I never tried) Then all of a sudden she wont return my calls. Its baffling sometimes.

But Ive realized I cant control other people. All I can do is control myself. Ive never wanted to be a player and sleep with tons of girls. Even though I talk to more than one girl at a time. Im just fed up with having to chase girls. I want that one girl that wont make me chase her too far. The one that wants me for me. The one that understands that im not here to entertain her. I want the one that keeps me from ever wanting to chase anyone else. I know im not the only that feels like this.

 

[mikeyb]

I know exactly what you mean. I'm in college too and I feel the same way. I refuse to let my life revolve around some girl's mind games. Out of ten girls I meet, I find that I only want to get to know two or three of them better, and out of those, I'm lucky if one is gf material. What's worse, most of the time, that one in particular isn't attracted to me, or whatever relationship we start falls apart after a week or two for no obvious reason.

Bottom line: dating is like craps. Roll enough times and you'll get a hard 6.

 

[muscleman]

If this is about that one girl in particular, she wont return your calls because you slept at each others house 3 nights in a row with no sex. To her, you're either a) a chump b) uninterested or c) gay. Don't worry, I've been there.

 

[ObieJuan]

I'm 26 and it's the same story. I'm no player either, it's hard for me to respect most women with the games they play. I work 45-50 hrs. a week, maintain a diet, work out and study- whatever time I have left over I don't really feel like wasting it girls for the reasons you mentioned. Getting laid is nice but I really don't want to risk STDs on random hors...if I meet a girl I like then I'll sleep with her...chances of meeting women like that come along maybe once or twice a year. My standards might be really high, but I think societies' standards are very low.

There's a girl in Norcal I want to meet right now, she's cute, around my age and has qualities I'm interested in. Seemingly honest with herself and others, friendly and has a good heart. I think the naughty/nice factor is there- that's probably what caught my interest. I hate girls that are prudes- been there, done that. I'd never consider being with someone who doesn't want me sexually, who doesn't convey that by talking dirty and show how bad she wants me...without me telling her to do it. I think she likes my personality which is also important. I see where you're coming from, you're not alone. Good women are hard to find for guys like us because we set the bar for ourselves which is above and beyond what most women could measure up to. I guess we should just keep on doing our thing and maybe one day we'll get lucky.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

...But Ive realized I cant control other people. All I can do is control myself. Ive never wanted to be a player and sleep with tons of girls. Even though I talk to more than one girl at a time. Im just fed up with having to chase girls. I want that one girl that wont make me chase her too far. The one that wants me for me. The one that understands that im not here to entertain her. I want the one that keeps me from ever wanting to chase anyone else. I know im not the only that feels like this.

Welcome to number one realization about people and the nature of control. Also, congratulations for making the first step in defining yourself by your own terms and not just by what people typically do around you.

 

[Potbelly]

Bottom line: dating is like craps. Roll enough times and you'll get a hard 6.

haha...too bad we can't roll 10s

 

[NSUballer]

The girl that slept at my house definitely doesnt think im gay. We made out alot and I fingered her alot too. She said she doesnt have sex though(which is BS bc i couldve got het) And while she was in my bed this other girl called me to do something that afternoon. Maybe that had somthin to do with it.

 

[saber]

The other girl calling had nothing to do with it. She wanted you to **** her. Now she will find someone else.

 

[NSUballer]

Im not even really worried about that girl because I really didnt like her anyways.

 

[L777]

What? You've accepted that you're a meathead tool? Good for you

 

[NSUballer]

hey buddy why dont you get off my nuts....theyre gettin kinda sweaty

 

[L777]

hey buddy why dont you get off my nuts....theyre gettin kinda sweaty

That comeback had all the hallmarks of a double-figure IQ. Well done.

 

[NSUballer]

youre obviously a lonely guy.....maybe you should try a hooker