"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I've blamed my poor success with women on my looks

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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you're exagerating. U don't look ugly if that's what u meant. I dont think ur looks is the issue here
 
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Work out man.

In all honesty, a genuine first step advice I'd like to give you is: work out.

By working out you get:
1. Strength & Size
2. Oozing Confidence
3. Determination to succeed in anything you do

I've noticed a huge difference in the way I carry myself after working out for roughly 2 months.

P.S. I used to be anorexic.
 
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dont waist time aiming for models.. go for simple regular women dress as well as you can and make sure your game is tight. Looks determine a woman's attitude to you and your attempt to convince her to mate with you.. The less good looking you are the longer it usually take to get layed..
 
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I've only started to be recently because I just can't get any interest from any girl despite, in my opinion, my strong social skills.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Given your post I was expecting a hideous freak, so you'll be pleased to know that the way you look should not stop you from getting girls.

Your nose is pretty big. It's the only thing I'd be even slightly self-conscious about if I were you, but if you take care of your skin it's not even that big of a deal.

I'm a skinny guy too... I'm 5'6" 130, used to be almost 150 back before I got in a relationship and stopped going to the gym (smart move, right?). One thing I've learned is that while being skinny isn't great, it is much better than being fat, and depending on the girl it might not even matter at all. However, I would definitely recommend working out because it's one less thing to worry about, and can only improve what you were given. Might as well improve the things you can control right? On that note, I better take my own advice! Off to sign up at the gym again on payday tomorrow.
 
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RickRoll said:
yeah?

you guys seem so convinced, its a great confidence booster.

Anyone see anything as far hairstyles go? I try fohawking it but it looks kinda meh:

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fvck that girls arm is bigger than mine.
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No, not like that. The best hairstyle you can have is one that looks natural; yours has too much product in it. Girls like running their hands through your hair, so get a hairstyle where they can first do that, and second do it without getting product all over their hair. Consult style magazines, look around on the internet or even go to a salon and find the most attractive girl there and ask her what she thinks.

As for your acne, see this post. Follow this and your acne should clear up. Also, if you think your acne is particularly bad (I can't really tell from the photos), then I would suggest covering your face in 2.5% benzoyl peroxide (i.e. On The Spot) twice a day (morning and evening) for a week. Don't wash it off, obviously, and do it before you moisturize. Try that and get back to me on how it works.
 
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I would say keep the hairstyle from first pick, it kinda hides your big ears. i have big ears too so i know what works ! I wouldnt say you are ugly dood, you are definitely not brad pit but you look like average guy. You looks are definitely not whats keeping the girls away!
 
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Prodigy746 said:
I would say keep the hairstyle from first pick, it kinda hides your big ears. i have big ears too so i know what works ! I wouldnt say you are ugly dood, you are definitely not brad pit but you look like average guy. You looks are definitely not whats keeping the girls away!
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What do you rock?
 
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Hey man, you look better than I do I'd say.

My advice would be to do anything to jazz up your looks. The most important is to dress well, very well. Always be impeccably groomed, invest in some nice shoes & colognes. It helped me & my ugly mug lol.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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is there a fashion 101 on this site? i'm retarded when it comes to that stuff.
 
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I've seen guys who look just like you pull plenty of pvssy.
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They might have lots of money. That's just a possibility.

I saw a guy in Stonecrest Mall (In Lithonia, GA for those who don't know) with 3 fine women walking with him. The dude looked like a Day Day from Next Friday except fatter and wore glasses. But when I happened to see him and the girls in the parking lot, the dude was driving a pewter Maserati Quattroporte on 22 inch rims and was clean as hell. I'm sure those girls wouldn't touch him with a 10 foot pole if he didn't have that stuff.

Getting back to you OP, I would work out more (or start if you haven't) and check into some trendy clothes. I'm no fashion expert, but I'm focused on working out right now. I gotta get rid of that stored fat in my system.

Now I wonder what pills I should take...
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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nismo-4 said:
They might have lots of money. That's just a possibility.

I saw a guy in Stonecrest Mall (In Lithonia, GA for those who don't know) with 3 fine women walking with him. The dude looked like a Day Day from Next Friday except fatter and wore glasses. But when I happened to see him and the girls in the parking lot, the dude was driving a pewter Maserati Quattroporte on 22 inch rims and was clean as hell. I'm sure those girls wouldn't touch him with a 10 foot pole if he didn't have that stuff.
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when you flash cash, you know what kind of women you get.
 
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when you flash cash, you know what kind of women you get.
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LOL! Beautiful Gold-diggers!

DING DING DING DING DING!

That's why most guys with cash out the ass stay low-key. I got an uncle who is worth about 8 figures and wears Eddie Bauer shirts with Wrangler jeans. I got another one who wears LSU (Geaux Tigers!) shirts most of the time and IZOD jeans. Not the trendiest form of clothes, but that swag stays with you!
 
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