"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I've been really depressed lately...

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Well, over the past two weeks, i've just been on an emotional roller coaster. I could be happy one minute, then all of a sudden, i'll be sad and serious. I've just been so stressed over stuff that usually doesn't bother me and i just don't know what to do... I would normally talk to one of my friends about it, but i don't wanna sound like i'm complaining all the time, which is why i'm posting this here. I think the main reason why I'm stressed/pissed off is because I never get to do shayt/ any alone time/ anything with my girlfriend.... I mean, at track meets(we both do track) she's always flirting with other guys... wtf is that. We had prom not to long ago, and i had a great time, but i just can't do anything with her(she's always denying me). Today, i tried hanging out with her at school, but she was just talking with her friends the entire time, so i pretty much went f that, and left. There are a lot of other little things that have been bothering me, but i'm not gonna get into it. You guys got any words of wisdom for me? I really need some. Thanks
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Just like that? I shouldn't even talk to her about it or anything? Well, when i was trying to hang with her at school, she said that she was talking to her friends cuz she hasnt talked to them over the weekend, and apologized... You guys think i'm being too negative? I think i should just tell her that since she got her chance to talk with her friends today, i get to have some alone time with her :D

You see? This is why i said i'm on an emotional roller coaster. In my last post, I was all mopey and like fvck the world. Right now, i'm in a better mood
 
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Yea, I left out some details in my first post, because i was in a bad mood, but since i'm feeling better now, i'll tell you guys what i hadn't posted. Whenever she's with her friends/whatever and i want her attention, i don't really make that good of an effort, and i've usually been in a bad mood when i wanted her attention, so i don't blame her for not giving me the time. When we went to prom with each other, we had a great time, and almost everything was going right, but i think i was acting too afc when i was trying to get her to kiss me. Yea, I think that's the problem. I have been letting myself become afc,not the person that she fell for, just because i got her. I gotta man up, and be that Dj that i once was, the DJ that i got her to fall for:cool:
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Arite, so my plan now is when i see her in the morning, i'm gonna tell her that since i let her get her girl talk with her friends, it means that i get some alone time with her. When i get that alone time, should i tell her that i had a problem with her, or should i just forget about that?
 
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actually, i think i have a better plan. How about if i just avoid her for a day, and she'll most likely ask me why i've been avoiding her. Once she asks me why i've been avoiding her, i'll ask her if she wants my attention and i'll tell her to come and get it. What do you think about that? Is my last plan better, or should i do this one?
 
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I have to agree that you should break up with her, not because either of you is a bad person, but because you both want different things. It seems like you're only her boyfriend because of the sex you think it might bring in the future, but she's not interested in sex. If you just want sex, find girls who want one-night-stands. If you are going to stay with her, don't worry about when she talks to her friends. While it's good to be in control, stopping a girl from talking to her friends is close to being abusive. If by "avoiding" her you mean not initiating contact, this is a good idea. Also, when she flirts with other guys, go flirt with other girls. You have the higher value and she needs to know that you'll happily dump her in a second if she fails to please you.
 
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You know what? You really helped open up my eyes 2.0. I have to change the way i do everything now, i think i got it figured out guys, thanks.:up:
 
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