biobotz1001
Don Juan
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Lately (past week) when I've been with the girl I've been seeing (past 6 months) I've been irritable and distant.
I think this has been causing her significant stress. Though she has done things worthy of irritation lately (what woman doesn't at times), my irritation has be disproportionately large in comparisson.
Lately if I'm with her, I try to find an excuse to leave early. I am usually happy to help with something if she askes but lately any non-serious request for my time or labor are seeming like a hassle or burden. If she says or does anything displeasing I find myself getting distant and impatient immediately.
She has done things in the past I fault her for, but she has been trying very hard to be as close to perfect as she can for the past month and doing a good job. I don't want to reward her efforts negatively, and I am feeling bad about my current reaction to being around her, I am usually (as she says) very thoughtful and loving.
MY QUESTIONS:
#1. Since this would be no way to maintain any relationship in the long term I was wondering if space apart would help this, since we've both been under stress lately maybe we should try to talk out any problem, or should I take it as a sign we are growing apart. Any Advice?
#2. Should I apologize for for being so irritable lately, and if so how should I go about it? (wait to see how long she takes to call me again, or call her soon), or Should I assume being a jerk all the time works out well for jerks, and a bought of jerkness is healthy on occasion and not apologize.
I think this has been causing her significant stress. Though she has done things worthy of irritation lately (what woman doesn't at times), my irritation has be disproportionately large in comparisson.
Lately if I'm with her, I try to find an excuse to leave early. I am usually happy to help with something if she askes but lately any non-serious request for my time or labor are seeming like a hassle or burden. If she says or does anything displeasing I find myself getting distant and impatient immediately.
She has done things in the past I fault her for, but she has been trying very hard to be as close to perfect as she can for the past month and doing a good job. I don't want to reward her efforts negatively, and I am feeling bad about my current reaction to being around her, I am usually (as she says) very thoughtful and loving.
MY QUESTIONS:
#1. Since this would be no way to maintain any relationship in the long term I was wondering if space apart would help this, since we've both been under stress lately maybe we should try to talk out any problem, or should I take it as a sign we are growing apart. Any Advice?
#2. Should I apologize for for being so irritable lately, and if so how should I go about it? (wait to see how long she takes to call me again, or call her soon), or Should I assume being a jerk all the time works out well for jerks, and a bought of jerkness is healthy on occasion and not apologize.