by a gf of 2 years, long distance, 6 hours away...I'll share my insight and my mistakes.
We broke up since we were going to college and she just wanted to see me, be "flings." We agreed that this "fling" would be exclusive and she said she didn't want to have it with any other guys where she lives because they would get too attached to her; she didn't like that. We were totally in love with each other for the 2 years until lots of drama happened. And we just wanted to "be there for each other" and also fvck at the same time.
She calls me an MM meaning "manly man" and she knows I don't get attached and not desperate like an AFC, that is why she was flinging with me.
Key things:
Moral of the story: FOLLOW YOUR GUT
I knew this girl was using me for sex, but couldn't imagine how she could, I was destined for success, a scholar-athlete-leader (awarded full Army ROTC sholarship). I thought girls dig guys like that. How could she play me like that? She knew if she told me about that fling, I would just tell her that she only has one fling, him. But I was the last one to know.
What a b!tch man. Fvck, don't trust girls, the angels turn into sex-crazed sluts. But I guess that is life--girls just want to have fun. I'm pissed cuz I can't do anything, I am 6 hours away...I don't ever want to hear about her cuz it hits me so hard that she changed into someone so low--I'm not hurt because my heart is broken, it is because of how someone so good became so corrupted and used me in the process.
I feel weird, hurt I guess you can say, she was my first and I treated her like a possession...and she took something that meant alot to me, it took her 3 years to get to me. I refused her at the first part of our relationship and we broke up 8 times and she kept coming back, saying there is no one better, she said, "I don't think anyone can measure up to you."
But fvck, when we are leaving and she runs around "experiencing" as much as she can before college. She swears she will be "good" in college. This is what she told me. She usually nevers goes out, she was a goody. Then she started hanging around a slut senior girl that ****ed older guys at clubs and any guy in high school basically, ONS. I told, "why do you hang with a girl like that?" Her: "She's just really horny, that's all" And that wh0re corrupts everyone she hangs with, so I watched her turned bad slowly...and I'm 6 hours away and can't do anything. Her friend wanted to fvck me too and I said hell no.
It's amazing how people change. She was a dork at her school, but I liked that, she had no friends really, so she was sheltered from such a bad school. So her only friend was that wh0re...who else could she hang with? And that wh0re knew where all the clubs were, a first time clubber gets that excitement, I can imagine her feeling that, experiencing all this, thinking it is "cool" and dancing nasty with this girl. She would tell me the girl would go off with a guy and come back in 2 hours. *shakes head* I know alot of people at her school and I chill with them all the time (I'm more popular than her), they all don't like my ex-gf because she's "fake" and always tell me to dump that "dork" or "when will you learn your lesson." My school is small and don't have any girls, who else will I turn to? Better than nothing. But whatever...I know she's fvcking that guy and I'm just sitting here, can't wait to go to college...
She tried to apologize to me and told me how much she still loved me..whatever, I just have the GUT feeling that she wants to fvck me again. I'm not talking to her ever again.
Lesson learned man...she changed me into a complete man...
More lessons learned: She would blurt out things like...
And another great deal of things. The key is in this quote...
Guess what? Her thoughts became her words, and those words she uttered to me, became her actions.
So BECAREFUL what a girl says to you, have a GOOD EAR!
Fvck, I'm so pissed, no one has ever used me before, what a horrible feeling...
It's not like she was obligated to me, but the fact she lied to me and used me...and throughout all those times, SHE came down to SEE ME. So I naturally thought she was whipped for me...guess not. Damn....
We broke up since we were going to college and she just wanted to see me, be "flings." We agreed that this "fling" would be exclusive and she said she didn't want to have it with any other guys where she lives because they would get too attached to her; she didn't like that. We were totally in love with each other for the 2 years until lots of drama happened. And we just wanted to "be there for each other" and also fvck at the same time.
She calls me an MM meaning "manly man" and she knows I don't get attached and not desperate like an AFC, that is why she was flinging with me.
Key things:
- She came down to visit and we first had sex (for 3 hours, and had a couple of sessions, we both lost our virginity), she goes home. She calls me the next week. We talk and I said she sounds stressed and weird. I asked her what was wrong. To cut it short, she said I no longer mean anything to her and she doesn't want to be with me anymore. I thought girls get really attached when they lose their virginity.
- She tells her friends that live where I live that she really misses me and really cares for me. They tell me and encourage me to give her another chance. She was nervous and reacted stupidly. She told them she said that because she wanted to hear my response to it, she was testing me. What a stupid ****in test, because I just told her, if that's how you feel, then we shouldn't be going out anymore. BYE
- Then she comes down to visit again and we talk. She ends up sleeping at my house again and we have sex a few times all night and in the morning. But the catch here is--she doesn't really say anything emotional to me OR even ACT it. She was spilling out her emotions to her friends, telling them how much I mean to her and so on. But her actions with me showed nothing. My GUT told me she just wanted to **** me since I lived far away. Ok, then we took a cab to drop her off at the train station. I ask her what is up with us. She tells me she just wants to be "flings" -- here is where it happened. I was alright, thinking: I don't want the emotional stress or "excess baggage" from having another relationship with her anyway (we broke up 8 times btw).
- 3rd time we have sex, it was prom night. That night is where she told me she loved me very much. I did not give her a response back, it seemed so fake. Then she told me she was flinging with another guy where she lives. The farthest they have been was making out. I suspect something here. My GUT tells me she's ****ing someone else and wants to **** me also. On prom night she did not want to kiss me because "kisses mean alot to her" but she would tell me she kissed that another guy. Great, what a *****. But she has sex with me, a couple of times that night and in the morning. No kiss, but yes to sex? WTF
- I learn later on that she slept over the guy's house. I asked her why? She responded that she was buzzed. Yea, good reason. All DJ's know that if a girl wants to spend the night at your place, they want to **** you--plain and simple. She denied it everytime I told her that she did, I know she did. She told me that she was comfortable only having sex with me, since we have known each other for 4 years. The other guy, she just starting seeing for about 4 weeks, behind my back. I told her if she would start seeing ANYONE to tell me, because I am an exclusive person, I refused to be "shared." But she told me the night after prom. *******.
- I think she majorly used me for sex. But she was such a goody-goody girl. Catholic, insisting that she would have sex until marriage (I seduced her and finally reasoned her that pre-marital sex is good)...she couldn't resist my advances anyway and my **** is 7 inches.
- Back in the day when we had a strong relationship, she really was in love with me. I was the world to her. But it is amazing how quick women change. We are both going to college and this is what probably changed her the most. We are leaving. As I realize I am leaving and never coming back, the unattractive girls start becoming attractive to me. It's that feeling when you realize that you have your last 5 weeks here. She must have had that rush.
- I'm a pimp at my high school, the other guy she is seeing is a pimp also. We both are jocks and play all the sports, I know the guy and he played against me in soccer, volleyball, etc. I would say he is more physically attractive than I am, but I am more facially attractive. That guy is known for ****in girls also and his standards aren't that high compared to mine, I only date women that meet my standards and I have refused sex a hundred times. The only person I have had sex with was her. Also, I'm the valedictorian of my class and attending Dartmouth. I thought "intelligence" was on top of the list for being "sexy" -- oh I forgot, that applies to women, NOT high school girls.
Moral of the story: FOLLOW YOUR GUT
I knew this girl was using me for sex, but couldn't imagine how she could, I was destined for success, a scholar-athlete-leader (awarded full Army ROTC sholarship). I thought girls dig guys like that. How could she play me like that? She knew if she told me about that fling, I would just tell her that she only has one fling, him. But I was the last one to know.
What a b!tch man. Fvck, don't trust girls, the angels turn into sex-crazed sluts. But I guess that is life--girls just want to have fun. I'm pissed cuz I can't do anything, I am 6 hours away...I don't ever want to hear about her cuz it hits me so hard that she changed into someone so low--I'm not hurt because my heart is broken, it is because of how someone so good became so corrupted and used me in the process.
I feel weird, hurt I guess you can say, she was my first and I treated her like a possession...and she took something that meant alot to me, it took her 3 years to get to me. I refused her at the first part of our relationship and we broke up 8 times and she kept coming back, saying there is no one better, she said, "I don't think anyone can measure up to you."
But fvck, when we are leaving and she runs around "experiencing" as much as she can before college. She swears she will be "good" in college. This is what she told me. She usually nevers goes out, she was a goody. Then she started hanging around a slut senior girl that ****ed older guys at clubs and any guy in high school basically, ONS. I told, "why do you hang with a girl like that?" Her: "She's just really horny, that's all" And that wh0re corrupts everyone she hangs with, so I watched her turned bad slowly...and I'm 6 hours away and can't do anything. Her friend wanted to fvck me too and I said hell no.
It's amazing how people change. She was a dork at her school, but I liked that, she had no friends really, so she was sheltered from such a bad school. So her only friend was that wh0re...who else could she hang with? And that wh0re knew where all the clubs were, a first time clubber gets that excitement, I can imagine her feeling that, experiencing all this, thinking it is "cool" and dancing nasty with this girl. She would tell me the girl would go off with a guy and come back in 2 hours. *shakes head* I know alot of people at her school and I chill with them all the time (I'm more popular than her), they all don't like my ex-gf because she's "fake" and always tell me to dump that "dork" or "when will you learn your lesson." My school is small and don't have any girls, who else will I turn to? Better than nothing. But whatever...I know she's fvcking that guy and I'm just sitting here, can't wait to go to college...
She tried to apologize to me and told me how much she still loved me..whatever, I just have the GUT feeling that she wants to fvck me again. I'm not talking to her ever again.
Lesson learned man...she changed me into a complete man...
More lessons learned: She would blurt out things like...
- "Thanks for teaching me, I'll put it to good use" (when we were making out heavily, I'm great at kissing, I was her first kiss, first EVERYTHING) -- guess what? that came true, she told me how she "tried" my breathing technique on the guy that I taught her, when you suck the air out of each other's lungs...b!tch...and she told me in my face!
- "you're my fvck-buddy *giggles*"
Me: "you better take that back, cuz I'm not, we are exclusive flings, something 'higher' than fvck-buddies, we known each other for too long to treat each other that way."
Her: "Sorry, i was just joking, I didn't mean it."
Moral: It came true also. - She also said, "It would be more convenient to find someone where I live and have a fling, hehe *giggling*"
Me: "What? Then go ahead, this doesn't have to be a special fling. You better be joking baby."
Her: "Opps, I was just joking, *laughs it off*"
Moral: It slipped her mind and it came true. She finally found a guy and guess what?
And another great deal of things. The key is in this quote...
Guess what? Her thoughts became her words, and those words she uttered to me, became her actions.
So BECAREFUL what a girl says to you, have a GOOD EAR!
Fvck, I'm so pissed, no one has ever used me before, what a horrible feeling...
It's not like she was obligated to me, but the fact she lied to me and used me...and throughout all those times, SHE came down to SEE ME. So I naturally thought she was whipped for me...guess not. Damn....
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