I don't approach women because i know I have access to visual images and videos of perfect looking women getting it on with each other
Exactly, they get it on with
each other, not
you! You do realize there's a huge difference between watching and being a part?
If i had a normal younger years in terms of development with women, i probably would have married one of hotties from my college.
Maybe, maybe not. You would most likely be a lot better off today regarding how to get women though. I didn't have easy access to porn, but nature still kicks in with the sex drive at some point. I discovered masturbation without much outside influence, I didn't even know that my first orgasm was an orgasm. Eventually I figured out what sex is, I wanted to explore that. Without porn the curiosity naturally drove me to seek it. Besides porn I was also very much unaware of most social judgements men feel restricted by, making me practically fearless because I didn't know "better". I did some things I cringe about today, but damn some of those things lead me down a path that eventually gave me the pvssy I wanted.
So why am I on this forum, I should have been all set with my early sexual experience shouldn't I? Well, I isolated myself more and more due to a troublesome parent, I discovered porn, played video games a lot and due to easily accessible knowledge on the internet got increased fear of judgement from others. My social anxiety was pretty bad when I found this forum, and I hadn't fvcked in 5 years, just satisfied myself with porn. I had forgotten my past self and had just become a shell of the guy I used to be. Honestly, this place didn't teach me so much about tips and tricks as it reminded me of my former glory. The fearless guy who didn't think about others judgements and just did what he felt like, even if that sometimes didn't work out as well as desired. To experiment in my life, to figure out for myself what works and what doesn't through my own personal experience, to find
MY way. Oh, that also lead me to avoid killing my sexual motivation with porn. The more I denied myself the easy way out of fapping to porn, the more motivated I was to seek out the real deal and the more I went against my fears to get it. Even though some of the things I said and did in my pursuit was extremely cringeworthy, it was nonetheless valuable experience and the effort paid off rather quickly.
You don't have that early experience to fall back on and start building upon like I did, since you had the option of porn so early. That doesn't mean you're fvcked though, the process is the same regardless of your experience level. What you do wrong is to expect results as if you had experience, you have a sort of arrogance. You don't have experience, you shouldn't pretend towards girls that you have experience, you shouldn't expect quick success and you are too fearful to experiment (and risk looking like a fool). On top of that you resort to the easy way out, fapping to porn instead of wetting your d!ck in real pvssy. You need to start the process from scratch, drop porn, drop your expectations for success, drop your ego (fear of ridicule), GTFO and gain experience through experimentation. Got a silly idea you think won't work? Try it anyways. Worst case? Someone gets amused, you gain experience. Best case? Your idea, however random and unlikely it may have seemed actually got you somewhere, you gain experience. You may discover ways that you won't find on this forum, in any books or videos, because nobody thought it would work. It's the only way to develop original game that nobody can match, because the knowledge of it is yours alone. It will stand out among the countless guys who repeat pickup lines and techniques like parrots or doesn't know better than to beg.
I'll help knock down your expectations a bit. Most of the people I know didn't get it right on the first try or the second or the third and so on. They'd eventually find someone who they were able to form a relationship with, but the first or the second or the third and so on didn't last. But for each one it usually lasted a longer each time, because they learned for each time. Point is, expect failure, but try to figure out how to make it work to the best of your abilities at that point in time. If it doesn't work, NEXT and try again doing it a bit differently.
This forum is a crutch, but you still have to walk yourself. You should seek to throw away this crutch and walk without support. You can start with making your own original OLD bio and not rip off someone else's. Doesn't work? Change it. Still doesn't work? Change it again. Go out and the next decent girl you see (without an obvious present boyfriend) you approach and say whatever stupid thing your brain inevitably serves you at some level and take it from there. Can I guarantee success? No, anyone who can is a big fvcking liar. It might sometimes lead you to some glorious situations you never would've imagined being in though. The type of situation you don't quite know exactly what you said or did that worked, but it just did, you're liking it and you just flow with it.
This is a universal piece of advice, it will serve you well regardless of where you are in the world. It's not about the specifics, because how well specifics works may often depend on local factors. It's about the process, how to figure out the specifics of game that works with your local factors.
