I've become shallow

[jlazz]

About 2 years ago my sister started giving me tips on how to change my looks and dress better. Ever since then I've been metrosexual and it has gotten to a point where I'm self-conscious. I won't leave the house unless I'm wearing a good pair of clothes that fit me nicely. I make sure I'm always clean and always worried about the way I look.

How do I lose the self consciousness? Yeah, I like to look good and wear nice clothes, but it has gotten to a point where I'm self conscious about it.

 

[Sean O]

The outfit doesn't make the man, the man makes the outfit.

I find that people who try to dress fashionably but don't carry themselves well look worse than people who dress averagely but do carry themselves well. Just walk confidently and with purpose, and don't forget good posture. Also, make sure that you're wearing clothing that suits your body type, not necessarily what your sister thinks looks "cute" on you.

 

[Morphiex]

u loose it by gaining self confidence....
hey i used to be like you , had to be perfect looking everytime i went out of the house... but heres what i did , i read the stuff in the bible , then i started to slowly not do certain things that i always did before going out of the house , liek one day i didnt fix my hair , after doing that a few days i started to not care about what i wore was clean and ironed, after a few days at that i started slowly change my own need to look perfect everytime, i gained confidence and gamed a few chicks while looking like i had just woken up from bed , cuz sometimes people look good enough "cool" when they look like they just woke up and didnt care about what to wear.....
but when its time for something formal , then you gotta put some effort into it , cuz you dont want to be percieved as a slob....

imo there are way to many metrosexuals now a days ,people think girls wont look at you if you wear the wrong things , and start to copy other peoples choice in clothes... but then whats so special about a guy thats wearing the same **** as everyone else....
dont jugde yourself by the clothes you wear jugde yourself by the action you make...

 

[LongDrinkofWater]

I agree with Morphiex here. When I can, I try to look "reasonably well put together" when I leave the house, but sometimes that's just not possible. I have a job that takes me all over the city, and my car has no air conditioning (but gets good mileage ). Anyway, towards the end of the day I'm kinda ragged from running around, BUT I still get reactions from women (the other day one girl said I was 'fine looking' to my face). The one thing I have been working on is posture because I tend to stoop when I walk, and carrying a laptop dosen't help so I've been making a consious effort that seems to be paying off.

Confidence is just one of those qualities that can radiate from within, and cover a multitude of other sins, clothing being one of them (within reason). Stand tall, don't give a sh't and you'll be on the right track...