You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Awesome dude, it's good to hear that I can instigate someone else improving themselves.phlong bong said:Thanks for this post and updates!!
I just got a ps3 a month ago and reading you do all this stuff made me kinda envious and made me learn real hobbies again and study harder!
I also notice the mOre time I ps3 the more I want to just wank to porn instead of have real sex... Good habit to stop
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Just saying. Any game where you have to kill zombies, isn't a game. Its preparation for the future.SandHawk said:There is nothing wrong with playing a computer game every now and then. As long as it is now and then. I sometimes get home after a long day of work, and play a little game of left4dead2 between dinner and going to my social happening of that night.
Gets the tension out of me, helps me let go the a day worth of work and charges me up. But as long as you do keep doing the other things in life you enjoy, and not just solely play halo, there isn't a problem.
With you however it seems like you do have a problem. Lock your xbox away for now, make a schedule on social activities you want to go to and schedule time for bootcamping!
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Very easy for you to say when you live in L.A.irocknike23 said:its not that hard dude..just start by leaving your house for at least 2 hours a day and stay out and about even if you have nothing to do.
preferably in the evenings/nights
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.