"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Ive apparently alpha widowed a few women BUT...........

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Absolutely god knows how. but over the past 5 years Ive seemingly managed this on two women....

One recent ex of the women in question, told me "she talks about you all the time and it became a bit tiring to me" (his words)

The other told a new female about me in what appears extremely good light, and i ended up hooking up with the new woman in question...

Here's the interesting part, Neither of the 2 women we are talking about, contact me in anyway, even though we are still acquainted and haven't fell out.

I would have thought if I had left this kind of mark on their mind. I would have had "Hi" Dm.?......or them dip their toe in the water someway?

Interesting, is it the female ego?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I know a girl that’s 36 and ALL she ever talks about is her first boyfriend when she was 15, some dude she dated for like 8 months 7 years ago who she had a kid with randomly, and some ex from 3 years ago. The weird thing is she’s never had a relationship last longer than a year, she was married for 2 years I think but she never talks about that guy in any way other than negative and he seems like a decent guy. She loves to talk about those other 3 exes though but she won’t go into detail. So weird.
 

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well it was a genuine question :rofl: i would have thought theyd been stalking me, clearly not:rofl:
 

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well it was a genuine question :rofl: i would have thought theyd been stalking me, clearly not:rofl:
When I was in highschool the hottest girl in my class told her friends that she could see herself dating me and was going to ask me out. Her friends told me that, called me up at my house and told me this. Now, me and this girl weren’t really friends and we didn’t really show much interest in each other, I was dating other girls anyways and she always had a boyfriend. It honestly made me feel like her next target but she never made a move or said anything to me about what her friends told me. Women are weird man.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Women aren’t designed to have multiple dvcks in their lifetime. If you achieve #1 early enough in her dating history, it is impossible for her to mentally replace you.
Nobody is forcing women to have all these multiple d!cks. We gotta start holding women accountable for choices they make, no more of this “it’s just their biology” excuse crap. Start holding them accountable for bad decisions and treat them like the equals they demand to be treated as.
 

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Nobody is forcing women to have all these multiple d!cks. We gotta start holding women accountable for choices they make, no more of this “it’s just their biology” excuse crap. Start holding them accountable for bad decisions and treat them like the equals they demand to be treated as.
I agree. I’m just relaying the message. I’ve alpha widowed a couple in the last few years. They always come back between boyfriends.
 

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Absolutely god knows how. but over the past 5 years Ive seemingly managed this on two women....

One recent ex of the women in question, told me "she talks about you all the time and it became a bit tiring to me" (his words)

The other told a new female about me in what appears extremely good light, and i ended up hooking up with the new woman in question...

Here's the interesting part, Neither of the 2 women we are talking about, contact me in anyway, even though we are still acquainted and haven't fell out.

I would have thought if I had left this kind of mark on their mind. I would have had "Hi" Dm.?......or them dip their toe in the water someway?

Interesting, is it the female ego?
I've got this and had this, and have heard about it - a women surmised that women go nocontact etc for self-protection and to ease their hurts, they do it so they can keep going essentially. That's all I can say
(the woman whom told me this had broken up with me 14 years ago to marry some dude- She said she still thinks about me now and wishes we married) Definite alpha widow.
 

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I've got this and had this, and have heard about it - a women surmised that women go nocontact etc for self-protection and to ease their hurts, they do it so they can keep going essentially. That's all I can say
(the woman whom told me this had broken up with me 14 years ago to marry some dude- She said she still thinks about me now and wishes we married) Definite alpha widow.
Yeah its interesting as it goes against RP advice that they would blow your phone up
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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