"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Ive apparently alpha widowed a few women BUT...........

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Absolutely god knows how. but over the past 5 years Ive seemingly managed this on two women....

One recent ex of the women in question, told me "she talks about you all the time and it became a bit tiring to me" (his words)

The other told a new female about me in what appears extremely good light, and i ended up hooking up with the new woman in question...

Here's the interesting part, Neither of the 2 women we are talking about, contact me in anyway, even though we are still acquainted and haven't fell out.

I would have thought if I had left this kind of mark on their mind. I would have had "Hi" Dm.?......or them dip their toe in the water someway?

Interesting, is it the female ego?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I know a girl that’s 36 and ALL she ever talks about is her first boyfriend when she was 15, some dude she dated for like 8 months 7 years ago who she had a kid with randomly, and some ex from 3 years ago. The weird thing is she’s never had a relationship last longer than a year, she was married for 2 years I think but she never talks about that guy in any way other than negative and he seems like a decent guy. She loves to talk about those other 3 exes though but she won’t go into detail. So weird.
 

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well it was a genuine question :rofl: i would have thought theyd been stalking me, clearly not:rofl:
 

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well it was a genuine question :rofl: i would have thought theyd been stalking me, clearly not:rofl:
When I was in highschool the hottest girl in my class told her friends that she could see herself dating me and was going to ask me out. Her friends told me that, called me up at my house and told me this. Now, me and this girl weren’t really friends and we didn’t really show much interest in each other, I was dating other girls anyways and she always had a boyfriend. It honestly made me feel like her next target but she never made a move or said anything to me about what her friends told me. Women are weird man.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Women aren’t designed to have multiple dvcks in their lifetime. If you achieve #1 early enough in her dating history, it is impossible for her to mentally replace you.
Nobody is forcing women to have all these multiple d!cks. We gotta start holding women accountable for choices they make, no more of this “it’s just their biology” excuse crap. Start holding them accountable for bad decisions and treat them like the equals they demand to be treated as.
 

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Nobody is forcing women to have all these multiple d!cks. We gotta start holding women accountable for choices they make, no more of this “it’s just their biology” excuse crap. Start holding them accountable for bad decisions and treat them like the equals they demand to be treated as.
I agree. I’m just relaying the message. I’ve alpha widowed a couple in the last few years. They always come back between boyfriends.
 

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Absolutely god knows how. but over the past 5 years Ive seemingly managed this on two women....

One recent ex of the women in question, told me "she talks about you all the time and it became a bit tiring to me" (his words)

The other told a new female about me in what appears extremely good light, and i ended up hooking up with the new woman in question...

Here's the interesting part, Neither of the 2 women we are talking about, contact me in anyway, even though we are still acquainted and haven't fell out.

I would have thought if I had left this kind of mark on their mind. I would have had "Hi" Dm.?......or them dip their toe in the water someway?

Interesting, is it the female ego?
I've got this and had this, and have heard about it - a women surmised that women go nocontact etc for self-protection and to ease their hurts, they do it so they can keep going essentially. That's all I can say
(the woman whom told me this had broken up with me 14 years ago to marry some dude- She said she still thinks about me now and wishes we married) Definite alpha widow.
 

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I've got this and had this, and have heard about it - a women surmised that women go nocontact etc for self-protection and to ease their hurts, they do it so they can keep going essentially. That's all I can say
(the woman whom told me this had broken up with me 14 years ago to marry some dude- She said she still thinks about me now and wishes we married) Definite alpha widow.
Yeah its interesting as it goes against RP advice that they would blow your phone up
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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