Iv been USED....by an Attention *****!!!!

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Ok funny story. Have been seeing this girl for awhile she had initially VERY HIGH interest in me. Then very COLD, Then very HIGH, etc...

I knew something fishy was goin on and I havent given her an inch no attention for her unless she deserved it.

Now just earlier today my mate whos going out with her mate told me that that hes just been told shes been leading me on this whole time and was never going to DO anything with me. just boosting her confidence...

Shes a rebound(I dont have time for this ****)

Now this doesnt surprise me about this girl really im a bit pissed who wouldn't be. This girl aint even a 10 bout a 6.

We hang around in the same social circle and I think she chose her victim a little unwisely. As I was onto her for a while.

Now she still thinks she has me in her vice but I want to turn this around to make her realize what a manipulative ***** she has been.

any ideas?
(and please dont just say WALK AWAY I see her out almost every weekend)

 

[Entropy4]

Walk away.

Why do you want to "show her"? It's vindictive and WEAK. By doing that, you're playing into her hands even more. She wants attention out of you, preferrably positive, but if negative, she'll take that to. Girls like this love to create a hurricane of drama wherever they go, with them the eye of the storm. This girl is needy and unstable. If she's a 6, then why are you even bothering? That same energy could be used to pick up an 8.

Walk away.

 

[MCristo]

Just completely ignore her whenever you wind up together because you are in the same social circle. This will piss her off, she'll have lost her control over you. Plus you won't have to deal with her ****.

 

[Vice]

Ignore her advances.
Lean back and let her come to you.
Just generally ignore her.
But don't be an *******.
She'll wonder why you're acting this way and try harder.
At one point she may "give up", but don't worry; she may seem to forget about you, but that night she'll have trouble falling asleep, wondering why the hell you didn't bend... all this thinking about you will turn to real attraction.

 

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hmm.

moment of anger fading.......

yes I agree with walking now.

BUT I feel that shes already had her fill. So ignoring her would not have the desired effect.
This sounds like revenge and to be honest it is. To use somebody like this and to disregard their feelings is the lowest thing you can do.
I just want to let her realise that she was wrong and that she never "HAD" me. I am going to have to see this girl regularly from now on and she has to know her place...

Second problem we were supposed to be going out next weekend, Im thinking of just sending a message saying.
"I was just thinking and I dont think we should go out again."
was thinking of adding "for obvious reasons"
at the end but maybe thats a little too assholish

 

[Entropy4]

You're still lashing out man. Can you see it?

Be rational for a second. This girl obviously has some attention issues and is needy, selfish, and unstable. Do you really think YOUR TWO CENTS is going to change YEARS of her emotional issues? No way...

Be the bigger person. Just cut her out of your life. To react in any way is to play into her game of drama. It's very easy:

1. You ignore her.
2. When it's time for you guys to go out, you just don't go. It's that easy. You don't owe her a reason or an apology. Just don't go. She'll probably flip out and call you an *******. If that's the case, see #1.

The only reason this is a problem in the first place is because you're coming from a scarcity mentality. There are 3 billion women in this world, she's just one. Why waste anymore energy on her? That energy could be put into picking up a quality chick.

 

[BlackJackal]

hmm.

moment of anger fading.......

yes I agree with walking now.

BUT I feel that shes already had her fill. So ignoring her would not have the desired effect.
This sounds like revenge and to be honest it is. To use somebody like this and to disregard their feelings is the lowest thing you can do.
I just want to let her realise that she was wrong and that she never "HAD" me. I am going to have to see this girl regularly from now on and she has to know her place...

Second problem we were supposed to be going out next weekend, Im thinking of just sending a message saying.
"I was just thinking and I dont think we should go out again."
was thinking of adding "for obvious reasons"
at the end but maybe thats a little too assholish

You... you can slap her

 

[I.A.F.Y.B.]

She used you for what she wanted and now wants nothing to do with you.

The best thing to do is move on with your life without her being involved in it.

 

[demonic]

I suggest you learn from your mistakes and move on, ignore her and don't even talk to her.

Anything else would just be childish.

Demonic

 

[AlanB]

Funnily enough, I had a similar situation at the end of last year but it was even more hot and cold then that. She would come round and sleep with me and then would be really cold, wouldn't answer calls, flake out on dates and then when I didn't respond, she would come round again, sleep with me and rinse repeat. In the end, she out-gamed me and I got annoyed, had a good long hard go at her, told her what I thought of her in no uncertain terms, made her cry and told her that if she didn't delete my number I would report her as a stalker.

Then, when I came to my senses, I emailed her to apologise and now when I see her around (she lives very near me and drinks in some of the same bars) I politely acknowledge her, say a quick hello and then quickly move on. It feels good though because I know that although I screwed up and I can't go back there (nor want to) at least I am being a gentlemen now.

 

[ElStud]

Ok funny story. Have been seeing this girl for awhile she had initially VERY HIGH interest in me. Then very COLD, Then very HIGH, etc...

I knew something fishy was goin on and I havent given her an inch no attention for her unless she deserved it.

Now just earlier today my mate whos going out with her mate told me that that hes just been told shes been leading me on this whole time and was never going to DO anything with me. just boosting her confidence...

Shes a rebound(I dont have time for this ****)

Now this doesnt surprise me about this girl really im a bit pissed who wouldn't be. This girl aint even a 10 bout a 6.

We hang around in the same social circle and I think she chose her victim a little unwisely. As I was onto her for a while.

Now she still thinks she has me in her vice but I want to turn this around to make her realize what a manipulative ***** she has been.

any ideas?
(and please dont just say WALK AWAY I see her out almost every weekend)

First of all, let me tell you what's wrong, the fact you're expecting "her" to make the moves. Dude, if you want to move things on with her then YOU have to do it. A girl isn't gonna lead unless she's like super interested. And you shouldn't care "why" she was giving you such interest, because that's irrelavent. All comes down to this, do YOU want to f*ck her or not?

 

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El Stud , good point but im not expecting her to make the moves. I AM making all the moves shes just full of empty promises"not here" "not now" etc. Im getting nothing out of this except a sore head. shes getting what she wants the ****ing attention. The facts are she thinks she has me hooked and doesnt nee to do anything to keep me hooked.

But I truly dont care anymore, Im not going to do anything but just axe the girl from my life.
Plenty of other spinning plates.

The only reason I was so pissed is that it is in my social circle this has happened but **** it.

 

[I.A.F.Y.B.]

El Stud , good point but im not expecting her to make the moves. I AM making all the moves shes just full of empty promises"not here" "not now" etc. Im getting nothing out of this except a sore head. shes getting what she wants the ****ing attention. The facts are she thinks she has me hooked and doesnt nee to do anything to keep me hooked.

But I truly dont care anymore, Im not going to do anything but just axe the girl from my life.
Plenty of other spinning plates.

The only reason I was so pissed is that it is in my social circle this has happened but **** it.

Then, if you are around her in your social circle. You ignore her and focus on everybody else. She will start to wonder why you arent noticing her anymore. Which will show her that she does not have you hooked!

 

[Warrior74]

your ego is the only reason why you're mad. If it wasn't in your social circle and just some random girl....you wouldn't care as much. social status + ego.