The Mad Ghost
Senior Don Juan
Anything...
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
ITT: I Tell You How To Get Good With Women, Ask Me Anything
- Thread starter The Mad Ghost
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
backbreaker
Master Don Juan
this isn't the misc brah
The Mad Ghost
Senior Don Juan
I know, its sosuave.backbreaker said:
Alex DeLarge
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Okay TheMadGhost, I've been having a problem lately..
A few women have been complimenting me on my looks, they've said I'm very handsome and good looking, but when I call them to schedule a date, most of them flake. Even though they find me attractive.
I'm thinking that maybe they lack confidence? Maybe my game is shot.. I'm not too sure. Most of the time, if I ask a girl out it's through text (I'm 22 years old.. Chicks NEVER pick up the phone anymore even when I try calling and most prefer text that I talk to) here's how a usual conversation goes..
Me: Hey ___ it was great seeing (or) meeting you the other night! (Then usually I throw in a little joke here like a witty remark I made to her or something funny she did that I thought was cute but rag on her a bit like an older brother).
HB: Hey ___! Yeah it really was. (Usually she says something here about the previous encounter or date too)
Me: Great! well later this week I'm going down to ____ to do ____ (typically action date, or grabbing drinks.. Something low key) You should tag along and we'll get ourselves into some shenanigans!
HB: Okay! Sounds good!
Now usually this chat takes place about 2-4 days before the meet up, but I don't typically chat with them in that time period. Then the day comes around and they flake or just never respond. This is a girl who had complimented me on my physical appearance before hand as well..
Now I'm thinking...
-Maybe I should communicate more and build rapport for the meet up?
-Maybe they're just bored and want to flirt with a guy for the evening?
-Maybe they're just too nervous? (If I knew this, I would try and make them feel more comfortable, but if it's not that.. I could be easily interpreted as creepy and needy which I'm not)
-Maybe I should make my appearance less intimidating? (Usually I wear a leather jacket biker style, band tee shirts, and engineer boots.)
I have no problem getting numbers.. I've got about 5 phone numbers since Dec 23rd and it's the 28th today. Only 2 of them seem somewhat interested in meeting up, but one of them seems sort of low-quality.
Any suggestions?
A few women have been complimenting me on my looks, they've said I'm very handsome and good looking, but when I call them to schedule a date, most of them flake. Even though they find me attractive.
I'm thinking that maybe they lack confidence? Maybe my game is shot.. I'm not too sure. Most of the time, if I ask a girl out it's through text (I'm 22 years old.. Chicks NEVER pick up the phone anymore even when I try calling and most prefer text that I talk to) here's how a usual conversation goes..
Me: Hey ___ it was great seeing (or) meeting you the other night! (Then usually I throw in a little joke here like a witty remark I made to her or something funny she did that I thought was cute but rag on her a bit like an older brother).
HB: Hey ___! Yeah it really was. (Usually she says something here about the previous encounter or date too)
Me: Great! well later this week I'm going down to ____ to do ____ (typically action date, or grabbing drinks.. Something low key) You should tag along and we'll get ourselves into some shenanigans!
HB: Okay! Sounds good!
Now usually this chat takes place about 2-4 days before the meet up, but I don't typically chat with them in that time period. Then the day comes around and they flake or just never respond. This is a girl who had complimented me on my physical appearance before hand as well..
Now I'm thinking...
-Maybe I should communicate more and build rapport for the meet up?
-Maybe they're just bored and want to flirt with a guy for the evening?
-Maybe they're just too nervous? (If I knew this, I would try and make them feel more comfortable, but if it's not that.. I could be easily interpreted as creepy and needy which I'm not)
-Maybe I should make my appearance less intimidating? (Usually I wear a leather jacket biker style, band tee shirts, and engineer boots.)
I have no problem getting numbers.. I've got about 5 phone numbers since Dec 23rd and it's the 28th today. Only 2 of them seem somewhat interested in meeting up, but one of them seems sort of low-quality.
Any suggestions?
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I just asked a girl at work to hang out, the conversation went something like this..
*We talked about relationship stuff*
ME: Does your boyfriend let you hang out with your guy friends?
HER:No, he says its ok, but I know it's not ok. I choose not to anyway.
ME:So what if we hang out, is that ok? Hahaha.
HER:Haha, I don't know, your girlfriend might get mad.
ME:Nah, I won't tell her.
HER:Haha.
ME:Have you ever been to --------?
HER:Yeah, once.
ME:I'm going there to do some shopping, wanna come?
HER:Who's going?
ME:Just me.
HER:hmm, let me think about it. Maybe. I will get back to you on Friday....
What do you think Ghost? I didn't get much sleep before i went to work, so I pretty said w.e was on my mind and the heck with it. At that moment, I feel like didn't care if she say no or yes.. I just wanted to see if I can get her out just for the heck of it. Haha.
*We talked about relationship stuff*
ME: Does your boyfriend let you hang out with your guy friends?
HER:No, he says its ok, but I know it's not ok. I choose not to anyway.
ME:So what if we hang out, is that ok? Hahaha.
HER:Haha, I don't know, your girlfriend might get mad.
ME:Nah, I won't tell her.
HER:Haha.
ME:Have you ever been to --------?
HER:Yeah, once.
ME:I'm going there to do some shopping, wanna come?
HER:Who's going?
ME:Just me.
HER:hmm, let me think about it. Maybe. I will get back to you on Friday....
What do you think Ghost? I didn't get much sleep before i went to work, so I pretty said w.e was on my mind and the heck with it. At that moment, I feel like didn't care if she say no or yes.. I just wanted to see if I can get her out just for the heck of it. Haha.
I'll tell you this much....Alex DeLarge said:
You have attraction in the beginning maybe... and then you have no comfort...
2 days later (they meet many men if they are single as well)... Some just played it better than you...
Attraction is not a choice right?
RECREATE!
When you meet them,, talk to them for about 20-35 minutes... get the number leave,,
text them same night how it was nice meeting them ..
next day have an attraction text coming in say something like
"HEY! YOU NERD HAHA,, GUESS WHAT I JUST THOUGHT ABOUT DOING!!"
She will say WHAT!
... and you call her...
Get her on the phone,, talk to her for about 10-15 minutes to reinitiate attraction and develop comfort then tell her you would like to schedule a date, If she is easy going.. do it there on the spot!
If not,, tell her you will speak to her soon because you are about to do something important, and call her the next day!
Play the game man!
SamTheHobit
Master Don Juan
What's your veiw on number flakes and is there a way to minimise flakes?
Seems alot of people are having trouble with this.
Seems alot of people are having trouble with this.
CURE IS THIS... YOU HAVE TO HAVE KILLER ATTRACTION AND COMFORT THE NIGHT YOU MEET THEMSamTheHobit said:
ONCE YOU DO THAT THEY WILL BE THE ONES ASKING FOR YOUR NUMBER!
TAKES A LOT OF WORK AND GAME TO DO IT...
THINK ABOUT IT,, WILL ANY GIRL FLAKE ON BRAD PITT?
The Mad Ghost
Senior Don Juan
It depends on what type of flake that is?SamTheHobit said:
Are you getting numbers from online, daytime or clubbing? Different flakes for different situations.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
i have a great thing im doing to make sure its not a flake.
when the chick giving me her number.
i just say it out loud to make sure 'i wrote it correctly'
so if she's saying (i dont know about US number but in france >>>) 0612345678
you repeat that out loud but with 2 inversed number >>> instead of 0612345678
you say: 0621345678
if she correcting you, then you have the real number.
if not, dont bother to save that !
when the chick giving me her number.
i just say it out loud to make sure 'i wrote it correctly'
so if she's saying (i dont know about US number but in france >>>) 0612345678
you repeat that out loud but with 2 inversed number >>> instead of 0612345678
you say: 0621345678
if she correcting you, then you have the real number.
if not, dont bother to save that !
Would appreciate if you'd tell me what you you would do in these situations (and dont just give up thats lame - assume you have a lot of time and these girls are something special and different - whatever that would get you motivated to do whatever it takes to maximise chances):
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=192123
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=191978
thanks
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=192123
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=191978
thanks