"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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its YOUR decision

check_mate_kid_uk

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i was watching haloween 3 last night. For those of you that havent seen it there was a tv comercial that would kill every one wearing a particular brand of haloween mask.

osme guy finds out and is telling a tv station to take it off air, on all 3 of their channels, well that comercial is starting, they take it off the first, its still on the second you are seeing it then it goes off air, then its on the third its alreay starting. The buy is on the phone shouting take it off air. you see the comercial on the tv in the film will all these people die...suddenly it cuts to the credits.

a lot of films do this kind of thing

i remember always wondering to myself what actuly happens.

but i realised somthing lastnight watching this.

The ending of the film could have ended either way, you do not know how but say it had actuly ended in 1 of the 2 possible ways, that was only because some guy writing it decided it should.

so i go away not caring that the film had no end because i knew it is only some guy deciding the end, and that could have just as easily been me or you deciding the end.

we are just taking what he puts infront of us and eating it right up.

how about its your decision, why let other people make your dicisions for you why not make your own.

i remember i used to really care when i did not know what the ending was but its just some one making that decision, when i realise i can make the decision then i do not care what decision this other guy could have made.

this applys to your life because why should some one else make those every day decisions when you can do it. you are a man arent you? why should some one else in your group of freinds always decide where you will go today, you should take charge, do not be bossy but have 100% contorl of yourself.

Do not aim to have control over others, just over yourself, and that control will draw them in so they will follow under your control because they see you are in control.

you can not be bossy with girls thats bad, but if your in 100% control, then thats being an alpha male.

heres an example

you want to go to shop X she wants to go to shop Z, if you can only go to one then do not say where going to shop X, say im going to shop X, she can make her own decision on what she wants to do, but dont you think that she will probably just take your decision and come with you.

make sure you are not to shelfish thou, because sometimes you should make the choice you are going to shop Z.

being a man is nto about having it all your way and being unfair on everyone else, it is about you doing what you want and being fair on them letting them do what they want by using your control to involve what they want to do.

for example in a group of freinds that want to do a few difrent things, being in control does not mean doing what you want to do, it is deciding what is done. and doing it well means doing it fairly.

for example you say "lets do what he wants to do first, then what she wants to do, then we all go do what i want to do" you are in control yet every one gets what they want.

P.S control the situation because thats how you are, and remain chilled out and do it fairly. If you get stressed out from it do not do it, because girls like a guy that is laid back more then one who is stressed out and pushey.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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DeathDealer

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It's very easy being a tough guy and being single-minded (doing what you want, not caring what others think) is almost as equal as the wimpy guy who gives the girl rides all the time, buys her gifts, buys her dinners.

Like politics, finding the middle ground is best.
 

check_mate_kid_uk

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which is why i said you must be in control whilst still being fair, and not selfish and not bossy.
 
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