"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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It's tough at the top for alpha males

Iceberg

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Here's an interesting article I just read on yahoo.com. Not sure how I feel about it yet, but I thought I'd share...


http://news.yahoo.com/tough-top-alpha-males-study-180638817.html

It's Tough at the Top for Alpha Males

If you're feeling envious of your boss's paycheck, a study out Thursday shows that success comes with high stress, possibly as much as faced by those who have to struggle to find a bite to eat.

The results of nine years of research on wild baboons, published in the journal Science, suggest that despite perks like easy access to mates and food, top-ranking males experience similar stress levels as their lowest-rung counterparts.

Those in the middle showed lower stress than either the top or bottom ranking males, according to measurements of testosterone and a stress hormone known as glucocorticoid.

"Alpha males exhibited much higher stress hormone levels than second-ranking (beta) males, suggesting that being at the top may be more costly than previously thought," said the study led by researchers at Princeton University.

Samples were taken from the feces of a wild male baboon population in Ambelosi, Kenya. While the stress levels at the top and bottom were similar, they were likely caused by different problems.

Alpha baboons spent lots of energy fighting to stay on top and trying to mate with as many females as possible, while the low-ranking males expended lots of effort searching for food.

Meanwhile, there may be perks for not reaching quite so high.
The second-rate beta males received about the same amount of attention -- in the form of grooming -- from females, but did "slightly better than predicted" at reaching their "full reproductive potential," the study said.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Brownrice

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To be a real alpha male, you need to be driven, have high standards, be competitive and ambitious. All those things cause stress. There is no such thing as life without stress if you have any standards. You ever wonder why some successful actors and athletes do drugs? Some aren't built to handle stress like others.

You have to maintain your spot at the top, it takes energy and adds stress.
 

DarkShade

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It's all about how you manage the stress. The stress to keep my body in shape, make sure I look good everywhere I go and keep a positive attitude is the cost of getting laid. I accept the stress.
 
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