It's the first time I want to know some girl for months

[nelysses]

I had my first relationship a few months ago, then I had sex with a few girls for a month and I realized that I didn't want this at all. Although it sounds asexual, I wasn't attracted to just the physical appearance. I didn't want to meet someone new either.
Instead, I just wanted to have one person. And a regular life.
I didn't even feel like talking to anyone about this for months.
But then I saw someone and suddenly I started to feel very different.

But the problem is that I always talked to everyday girls before (And mostly on social media) I don't want to make a mistake. Would it be too direct to go and talk directly?

Also, I'm fat now (I'm actually 186 cm tall so I only have a little belly) but I don't want someone else to take the girl until I get better. I'm losing weight but I can't go to the gym these days. The girl also likes a lot of sports posts on Instagram.
In other words, she does sports. But I can't even go to the gym during this period. I'm content with dieting and jumping rope for 30 minutes a day.

Considering these, what do you suggest? Even though I've been feeling asexual for a few months, I realized that I really wanted to talk to someone after months.

 

[BPH]

Start going to the gym and talk to her in person.

I don't know why you keep posting the same questions and never following the advice we give you.

 

[filerfiler]

Fixating on a single girl like that is a recipe for disaster

 

[sevbucmash]

If she was fat, would you want her?

 

[Doctor Europeo]

She´s into sports and you are concious about your weight, so this might be a long shot but remember:

"You miss 100% of the shots you dont take" - Wayne Gretzky

"Rejection is better than regret" - Rollo Tomassi

 

[nelysses]

Start going to the gym and talk to her in person.

I don't know why you keep posting the same questions and never following the advice we give you.

Novadays I can't go to gym for Ramadan I know. But for the other question I will talk to her in person, but I don't know how for this time.
Is being direct is okay? I

Fixating on a single girl like that is a recipe for disaster

I know man I know. But I don't know all of my friends are with their "single" gf's and they are happy. So nowadays I feel like their opinions are right. Not the all of men same so not the all of girls same.

If she was fat, would you want her?

As i say, No but ı think like ıf someone gets her?

She´s into sports and you are concious about your weight, so this might be a long shot but remember:

"You miss 100% of the shots you dont take" - Wayne Gretzky

"Rejection is better than regret" - Rollo Tomassi

Yeah but I think ı have one bullet, so I should aim better.

 

[BPH]

Novadays I can't go to gym for Ramadan I know. But for the other question I will talk to her in person, but I don't know how for this time.
Is being direct is okay? I

I know man I know. But I don't know all of my friends are with their "single" gf's and they are happy. So nowadays I feel like their opinions are right. Not the all of men same so not the all of girls same.

As i say, No but ı think like ıf someone gets her?

Yeah but I think ı have one bullet, so I should aim better.

You can work out during Ramadan. Why is this your excuse?

That's like saying I can't work out because I'm tired. I definitely can, I just don't want to.

 

[sevbucmash]

someone gets her

Someone already having sex with her.

 

[Clockwerk50]

Not sure what you're trying to say in your post, but based on other members' comments, it seems like you want a specific girl to commit to a relationship with you — likely because you're seeking stability and certainty.

However, whether you get the girl or not, you still need to keep improving yourself, your lifestyle, environment, career, and mindset. This isn't the time to become complacent — time waits for no one.

 

[nelysses]

You can work out during Ramadan. Why is this your excuse?

That's like saying I can't work out because I'm tired. I definitely can, I just don't want to.

I am still workout but not at a gym. As I mentioned before, I am a student at Med. school and the hours do not suit me very well these days. Therefore, in this process, I work with resistance bands, my body weight and a jumping rope.

Someone already having sex with her.

Actually I couldn't understand that. I have some girl friends. Some of them has sex every week but some of them didn't do anything and they are 26yo. So I don't think everybody are same with that.
But I can't say anything for this girl. She don't seem like that but maybe she can.

Not sure what you're trying to say in your post, but based on other members' comments, it seems like you want a specific girl to commit to a relationship with you — likely because you're seeking stability and certainty.

However, whether you get the girl or not, you still need to keep improving yourself, your lifestyle, environment, career, and mindset. This isn't the time to become complacent — time waits for no one.

No, I'm just organizing my life anyway. But should I wait for this to end (or at least cross a threshold) to talk to the girl? Or is it enough to go as I am and directly, I ask.