“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Its Okay to get Disappointed when you are Rejected

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Today, I did not get a call back from a very pretty girl that I thought had liked me.

Normally, I would have gotten in a defensive mood. I would have thought "So What? I AM THE ALPHA MALE, THE PRIZE TO BE ONE bullsh*t." But I find that kind of thought can't mask the fact that I got rejected by an attractive girl.

I just sort of embraced my disappointment and carried on with my day. Let's face it, no one likes to be rejected no matter how much you try to say or think otherwise. You will feel hurt inside, but its okay to feel that way. Just keep it perspective of the big picture, and let yourself heal. I have always found that no matter what emotional distress we face in life, time is the greatest healer. In the meantime, don't be so hard on yourself.

Accept the fact you got rejected, feel disappointed, get back up, and reevaluate yourself. Figure out what you may have done wrong with the girl and then move on to someone else.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Wanna know what happened lately? (like 3 days ago),i got shot down by this hb6 i thought was digging me bigtime and k-closed an hb7 on the same fvcking night.Talk about forgetting about the rejection presto!

Yup "Figure out what you may have done wrong with the girl and then move on to someone else." is right on the nail.
 
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Exactly. Being the prize isn't about not caring if you get rejected, but rather not thinking that women are somehow better than you, whether it's because they're hot or because you have feelings for them. DJs are humans, too. The difference between us and AFCs is that an AFC would fall into depression over a rejection, whereas a DJ would be disappointed, but remember that there's more to life than women, and thus continue living his life as he was before.
 
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Hmmm, i don't feel disappointed when i get rejected... i just think that the woman was stupid for doing that.

That being the prize stuff is not just a trick. The idea is that it becomes reality at some point. There are loads of girls out there... Eventually i'll pick ONE, just one, to be my wife. And the fact simply is that i AM a good catch, so whatever woman i pick will be lucky to have me (and i to have her, or otherwise i won't pick her for that).

When i look around on the street, in social circles, etc, outside work... there really aren't that many guys who work every day to keep themselves in shape and looking their best, who are actually making something out of themselves and going for finacial security and who can regardless of options, still be commited and loving partners...

Not that many at all. When i approach a woman, she has every reason to get to know me, and no real reason to reject me... so if they do anyways... their bad!

I don't see how that would make ME feel bad really.
 
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If you have a backup plan with another girl, thats an even quicker way to forget about her.

Props to you...
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Socialreject said:
Hmmm, i don't feel disappointed when i get rejected... i just think that the woman was stupid for doing that.

That being the prize stuff is not just a trick. The idea is that it becomes reality at some point. There are loads of girls out there... Eventually i'll pick ONE, just one, to be my wife. And the fact simply is that i AM a good catch, so whatever woman i pick will be lucky to have me (and i to have her, or otherwise i won't pick her for that).

When i look around on the street, in social circles, etc, outside work... there really aren't that many guys who work every day to keep themselves in shape and looking their best, who are actually making something out of themselves and going for finacial security and who can regardless of options, still be commited and loving partners...

Not that many at all. When i approach a woman, she has every reason to get to know me, and no real reason to reject me... so if they do anyways... their bad!

I don't see how that would make ME feel bad really.
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That's good if it doesn't make it feel you bad. I mean right now I can feel the disappointment wearing away from her rejecting me. You see, Im not gonna dwell on it and get depressed or some sh*t like that. But I should use it as motivation to better myself in one way or another.

But in all honesty guys you seriously should not get rejected every single time. If thats the case then you need take an objective look at yourself, not blame the girls for rejecting you
 
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The way i see it is this...like fishing actually,you cast the line,get a nibble,then a bite and pull the line,no fish on it? So what? The obvious thing to do is try again,change the bait,work your technique.Of course you will be dissapointed for a split second but it means sh!t.I don't see how DJing is any different.
 
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sstype said:
But in all honesty guys you seriously should not get rejected every single time. If thats the case then you need take an objective look at yourself, not blame the girls for rejecting you
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True enough... i think the saying here is "know thyself" ;-)

I know who i am, i know what i am and i know what i want. It's not about an ego or blaming... just about common sense.
 
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