It's not that I feel I must be perfect....

[CapedCrusader08]

It's that I wonder if I am attractive to women,physically and otherwise.

 

[loving]

Read what I said in your other thread man! Do not use this forum as a catalyst for your stream of consciousness, rather do that in your own brain and get the answers you want yourself!

What are you afraid of? You are good enough.

 

[Upside]

You remind me of a previous poster named "ItsOnNow". Making threads questioning one's self. Seriously, go out and play the field. Stop posting.

 

[Interceptor]

CC,
I have to agree.


This is not healthy.


I knew you were precariously perched at the edge of a cliff.
This is no longer honoring you, nor serving you.


Seek professional help.

I dont believe you can do this alone.
Please get some help.
Why??

Because you're 'hearing' us, but not LISTENING to us.

You've been given good advice, but you are choosing not to take it.

You know that the medecine you seek is inside, but you continue to seek the 'magic pill' that you think is outside you.

When you cant even keep yourself healthy, and nurtured, you need to admit it. You dont have proper self management skills.
You need to get them.

And you need to get to someone who can help you.

If you're not even willing to give some of the advice here a try, then you must acknowledge you have a very very serious problem and need professional help now.

So you have to ask yourself

"Am I willing to take action?"

or

"Do I prefer to keep whining about my situation and not doing anything about it?"

I know you're going through a lot.
Actualy, MOST of us here are actually going through some turbulent times.
Very very few people here have really solid deep inner peace and fulfillment.


And its ok.

You're not alone.

But you're making a serious error when you keep up this self pity and self doubt, and beat yourself into the ground.


We're men here.
Soldiers , Warriors, Brothers. Mentors.

You need to look deep inside and look at the choices you are making.


Everyone has bad days.


But we must recognize we need Tactics to get through them.
And an overall plan...
..a strategy.

Get yourself together, and stop the negative, downward spiral.

 

[CapedCrusader08]

I can't help if I question myself. I mean,I am trying to figure out how and why I ended up like this,like I need to know.I can't let it go. Or,I am just too in my head. Or,it is something more. Something social,or how I do or do not carry myself,or how I do or do not "fit in".

No.I can't do this alone. But I am trying to figure certain things out.Which only I may be able to do.


"Because you're 'hearing' us, but not LISTENING to us.

You've been given good advice, but you are choosing not to take it."

Yeah. That's been a problem for me.

As for the whole last part,about stopping the self pity,the downward spiral,the beating one's self down,idk,it's like,thats all I know. I am locked onto that. I wake up every day,and it begins. And things just reinforce that anger. It could be any little thing.

"When you cant even keep yourself healthy, and nurtured, you need to admit it. You dont have proper self management skills."

I have admitted it. I can't seem to find a way out.