"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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It's not how much you make, it's how much you spend!

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Where the money goes? Into smoke pipe!

I finally, after two years of work, began writing down into excel spread sheet my income. That was last month. It turns out I make good money. Only problem is that I never have any money. I began thinking where my money goes. Just a small calculation, every day I buy water and cigarettes, just in a month it is more than 100 bucks. And I for some reason find it expensive to buy an electric kettle and drink tea and coffee. Now, from this day on I am writing into another spread sheet all my expenses, so that I could see where I can save money.

Fvck boyz, I spend too much!
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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To be fair, it's how much you make AND how much you spend. I kept myself to a reasonable lifestyle for years so I could build up my income streams. I could have blown all that extra money and spent it on trivial things. Instead I "paid myself first" and all that stuff. But how much you make is still important, because some people only make enough to get by. You have to have some disposable income if you want to save or invest. Lowering your cost of living is one thing to look into, but some people are living at the bottom already.
 

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Always save or invest at least 10% of your income. Pay yourself first. Spend less that what you make. That isn't always easy to do if you earn a modest income. You can always adjust the formula to suit your income. The point is to save or invest something. The beauty of compounding will reward you in the future.
 

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I realized, at that recently, that small things you buy -- a drink, cigarettes, hot dog -- compound with time and eat up a major portion of your income if you do it daily. I pay as much money for small things as much as I pay for my office, well at least it appears that way with extrapolation, I have no real data yet. I can save by buying an electric kettle, and bringing food from home, not drinking beer, and smoking less expensive brand cigarettes. I have a house which I don't live in, I can move into it and stop renting.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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