"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

Read more...

It's not always your fault.

9Volt

Banned
Joined
Apr 21, 2015
Messages
891
Reaction score
390
As much as you should improve for your own sake while learning and growing from past mistakes to not repeat them it's not always specifically your fault everytime.

At times it really is THEIR fault.

Don't be so hard on yourselves.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

Read more...

RedZone

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Nov 4, 2009
Messages
278
Reaction score
46
Honestly, there is a million reasons why things didn't work out. They have a bf, they arent attracted to you, in a bad mood when met, didn't like where you placed your comma, etc. In end, you should never just improve to get some girl. That might be part of it, but you improve for yourself and yourself only.
 

Milano

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Dec 21, 2016
Messages
357
Reaction score
251
Age
38
I needed this right now. It can really mess with your head if you think you are at fault for everything, its destructive for your confidence. Even after my last plate told me she felt something was missing I thought it was because I did something wrong, and ofc it is possible. Then it hit me when I spoke to another girl in my class which has a natural chemistry with me that me and this last plate just didnt connect at all. Its just that I like her and want to bang her, but she is not special to me, its nothing natural and effortless between us. I miss that, hard to find.
 

taiyuu_otoko

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jan 10, 2008
Messages
5,763
Reaction score
4,856
Location
象外
At times it really is THEIR fault.
It may be their "fault" but it is ALWAYS your responsibility regardless of who is at fault.

Your responsibility to sort better.

Your responsibility how you respond.

Your responsibility to do better next time.

Your responsibility to not use it as an excuse

If you're hiking down a mountain trail and a rattlesnake bites you, sitting in the dirt saying "It's not my fault" it's going to do squat. You've got to RESPOND appropriately so you don't die.
 

9Volt

Banned
Joined
Apr 21, 2015
Messages
891
Reaction score
390
I needed this right now. It can really mess with your head if you think you are at fault for everything, its destructive for your confidence. Even after my last plate told me she felt something was missing I thought it was because I did something wrong, and ofc it is possible. Then it hit me when I spoke to another girl in my class which has a natural chemistry with me that me and this last plate just didnt connect at all. Its just that I like her and want to bang her, but she is not special to me, its nothing natural and effortless between us. I miss that, hard to find.
This is what the cult religion of "game" teaches you. The chick is never wrong it's you didn't "game" her enough. It's "always what you did wrong". Game treats chicks like deities and assumes there is always something every man could do to get any and every chick.


It's nonsense.

And no its NOT always everyone on these forums or men's "fault" all the time regardless of what religious practitioners of game would like you to believe.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

Read more...

AlphaNate

Master Don Juan
Joined
Feb 23, 2012
Messages
756
Reaction score
569
Location
USA
I always blame her anyway :D

Like someone else said, as long as you learn from what happened, you're good. Who cares "whose fault" it is?
 

9Volt

Banned
Joined
Apr 21, 2015
Messages
891
Reaction score
390
It may be their "fault" but it is ALWAYS your responsibility regardless of who is at fault.

Your responsibility to sort better.

Your responsibility how you respond.

Your responsibility to do better next time.

Your responsibility to not use it as an excuse

If you're hiking down a mountain trail and a rattlesnake bites you, sitting in the dirt saying "It's not my fault" it's going to do squat. You've got to RESPOND appropriately so you don't die.
Which is why the dude needs to learn and grow from past mistakes not repeat them.
 

Roober

Master Don Juan
Joined
Nov 2, 2016
Messages
2,372
Reaction score
2,120
Honestly, there is a million reasons why things didn't work out. They have a bf, they arent attracted to you, in a bad mood when met, didn't like where you placed your comma, etc. In end, you should never just improve to get some girl. That might be part of it, but you improve for yourself and yourself only.
This!

The key I have found is don't give them the opportunity to reject you and you won't even care..

-Won't give out number? Next
-"I have a bf" I laugh, smirk, and say "that's too bad"
-Send one casual text, no reply or long time to reply... next
-Flakes on a date? Don't go out of your way to set a date. Confirm beforehand if you have to... Have alternate plans
-Won't kiss close, I think thanks for not wasting any more of my time... next
-"let's..." not see each any more or some BS... good luck to you!... next

It's easy when your not emotionally invested. It is also easy when you get more experience and realize how women are, fickle emotional creatures. Her words mean something the moment they come out of her mouth, not much longer than that!
 

AlphaNate

Master Don Juan
Joined
Feb 23, 2012
Messages
756
Reaction score
569
Location
USA
-Won't give out number? Next
-"I have a bf" I laugh, smirk, and say "that's too bad"
-Send one casual text, no reply or long time to reply... next
-Flakes on a date? Don't go out of your way to set a date. Confirm beforehand if you have to... Have alternate plans
-Won't kiss close, I think thanks for not wasting any more of my time... next
-"let's..." not see each any more or some BS... good luck to you!... next
You just nexted all your plates, bruh!
 

sazc

Master Don Juan
Joined
Oct 23, 2016
Messages
4,468
Reaction score
3,402
It MOST LIKELY is not your fault. Find the lesson in the experience. If you need to, learn the lesson. Grow. Increase your standards.
Honestly, try your hardest not to take it personally. not everyone is meant to click, it's as simple as that.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

9Volt

Banned
Joined
Apr 21, 2015
Messages
891
Reaction score
390
It MOST LIKELY is not your fault. Find the lesson in the experience. If you need to, learn the lesson. Grow. Increase your standards.
Honestly, try your hardest not to take it personally. not everyone is meant to click, it's as simple as that.
nothing wrong with having high standards if you're able to live up to the same standards you require in others.
 
Top