"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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its messign up my mindset

GaryUranga

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heres the story, so my friend recently got a car, hes pretty much my ride to uni,its either that or take public transport which sucks where I live, anyways, I just got into this new uni, week 1 I just decided I was goignt o own this place, I started approaching talkign to girls randomly, opening sets etc, I wasnt plannign on goign far just getting the approaches because though I can attract most girls easily Im still stuck in that shyness shell (obviously thats what Im working on atm) and gettign the max social skills I can get thats what Im workign on.

So anyways Ive known my friend since highschool its been prolly 8 years since Ive known him we been good friends for prolly about 3, anyways theres this girl lets call her C, I started talkign to her in my approachign marathon, we hadnt talked much but she was into me, liek there was no ice broken but we had talked tids and bits here and there and she liked me even asked me to be in a 3 ppl proyect with her, I of course included my friend.

My friend is a AFC of proffession, awesome conversator but he lieks to treat the girls as if they own the world and worships them, the guy decided he was goign to start liking her and he did, as hes my ride I leave with him, so basically I have to be stuck there while he tries to romance this girl, hes a great conversationalist but has no game, all hes doign is basically dominating the conversation and it pisses me off because suddenly, hes starting to act liek hes the mack daddy at uni its pretty noticeable hes in a high, and Im cool with that but its really starting to affect my thing with this girl big time specially cause Im that fake it till you make it stage Im actually just trying to stay away from the girl and this guy cause it simply makes me mad, its makign me start to act liek a ****head to the girl too, another particular thing about this, he wants me to go in the backseat of his car when he carries this girl around.

Any thoughts anyone
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Andromax

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GaryUranga said:
he wants me to go in the backseat of his car when he carries this girl around.
Oh man that **** would piss me off.

While it's terrible to let a girl come between a friendship, you must realize that you and this girl had absolutely nothing together, so any guy - friend or not - has just as much of a right to game her (successfully or unsuccessfully) as you do.

In this particular instance, just play it cool man, let him do his thing who cares?

Theres lots of girls running around.

And start riding the bus if he is making you sit in the back seat. That is pretty disrespectful.
 

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haha ditch that kid, he seems super lame. Don't know why you'd be friends with someone who takes hos before bros. Your prolly better off picking up women without him anyway. Plus, in time more chicks will come!
 

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this girl is someone I will be seeing more I found out we have some friends in common I actualy planned on goign for this one, I was thinkign of havign some fun though before I start using the bus more for example

I take the front sit, when he whines (yeah he says crap about it in front of her) I leave and sit in the back with her.

Or just goign for some good teasign on it like I say "here sit in the front" and when shes seatign there Im like "so I want a full report on what the front seat is like"

I could be more of an a-hole and just say "awwwwww look how cute hes happy youre sittign in the front"
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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GaryUranga said:
bottom line, I win
Not till you've bedded her there champ.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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