"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Its impossible for me to spin plates, i dont want oneitis

Ringleader41

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Im in a area where black guys are unfavorable, so I meet a girl thats interested in me every decade per say. Im talking to a girl now, but I can kind feel oneitis creeping behind me. Please help!!!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I dont have enough money to go out of state, and the in the inschool options are too much of a downgrade.
 

Vidrio

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Every decade dude? Really? There are girls everywhere that like BBC. What state are you in?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Ringleader41 said:
I dont have enough money to go out of state, and the in the inschool options are too much of a downgrade.
If you're only getting with 1 girl a decade, the last thing you should be concerned about is a "downgrade". Put your ego aside player
 

Ringleader41

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casaanova said:
If you're only getting with 1 girl a decade, the last thing you should be concerned about is a "downgrade". Put your ego aside player
I'm talking about a downgrade in switching schools in state.
 

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Finish school, take the blue balls, and then move.

Focus on your life primarily first. Simple.
 
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