“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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It's Going Down Tonight, and I Need Advice

AKA FLEX

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For years I've debated with myself and others which is the worse situation: not enough women, or too many. Only two days into this tumultuous and emotionally trying week, I've finally decided that the latter is far more taxing.

Having no women sucks, don't get me wrong. However, it also affords you the opportunity to work your game whenever you want and constantly challenge yourself. There are over three billion women in the world, and when you're not tied down to any of them, all of them are available for your plundering.

The second scenario, however, is like trying to juggle when you've got five balls in the air. It's extremely stressful to keep everything running smoothly, and if you take your eye off what you're doing, even for a second, you've got a big freaking mess on your hands.

That being said, I've got a problem. I met this girl, "Erin," a few weeks ago, and we hooked up the night we met. We've been hanging out fairly regularly since, and we've "done the deed" twice. She's voiced how much she likes me several times, though sometimes she tries to act aloof and disinterested so as not to appear too attached or obsessed. I know it's just an act though, because I can set my clock by her 9 PM phone calls every night. I recognized immediately that Erin is NOT the type of girl I would ever want a long-term relationship with, but she is kind of fun to hang out with a couple times a week, and I'll admit the guaranteed ass was hard to pass up. Therefore, you might say I've been sort of "stringing her along."

Everything was fine and good with Erin, but over the last two weeks, I've started to develop something with another girl, "Christine." Christine and I are MUCH more compatible, to the point where I can talk to her for hours without getting bored or being sidetracked by my desire to bang her. I'm not developing one-itis, but I do see the potential for something meaningful here.

So here's the problem: my fraternity has a formal this Saturday night, and I've invited Christine to be my date. Erin, however, still calls me regularly, still thinks there's something between us, and according to what her friend told me today in the gym, she assumes I'm taking her to my formal, even though I haven't asked her. Obviously, I'm not going to ask her, as I already have a date with someone else.

Understandably, I feel like ass about this. Some of you long-time members might remember the post I made several months ago soliciting advice on how to break up with my girlfriend. I suck at doing things like breaking up and letting girls down. I need to talk to Erin soon--like tonight or tomorrow at the latest--and end things with her, but I'm terrified that I'm going to devastate her.

Any suggestions on how I should broach the subject. So far as I know, she thinks that everything is fine between us and that nothing's wrong, which is going to make it that much harder.
 

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Tough situation. But be a real man and tell her straight up what you want with her. If you want to be FWB, tell her so. If you like Christina and want to be exclusive with her, tell her you'd like to be just friends.

That's really all you can do. It's hard, and it can be harder than facing rejection when you were an AFC. This is why girls often give BS excuses when they want to break it off with a guy- don't act like a chick (not that you said you were going to)- be a man.

-E-Z
 

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I agree with EZ. It's better to be straight forward rather than making up some bs excuse.
 

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I thought my situation couldn't get any worse, but I was wrong.

About an hour ago, I get an IM from Christine: "Okay, I heard today that you and Erin were like dating or something. What's up with that?"

I had an away message up, so I didn't respond immediately. When I finally read what she wrote, I called her instead of talking on IM. I admitted to her that Erin probably does think that she and I are dating, and that she has good reason. Basically, I admitted to leading her on, and expressed how bad I felt about it, but said that I had no desire to be anything more than friends with Erin and that I would inform Erin of that tonight.

She claimed that everything was okay, but when I asked if I could come visit, she said, "I'll have to think about it. You're not on my list of favorite people right now." Ouch.

I convinced her to let me come over, and I'm headed that way in about an hour. What should I say when I get there to win her back to my camp? This is the one part of my game that is seriously lacking. I'm GREAT at picking them up and getting laid, but when it comes to dealing with girls' emotions, I'll admit it, I suck.

Oh, and I still haven't gotten around to talking to Erin. Just what I need--one more thing to worry about.
 

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"I convinced her to let me come over, and I'm headed that way in about an hour. What should I say when I get there to win her back to my camp? "

Hey, I knew Erin before you and I ever got together. Besides, we haven't agreed to be exclusive yet!
 
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