"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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It's Friday and I'm meeting women !

Roly

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I'm not going to make any excuses, I'm not the smoothest guy around when it comes to this stuff. But one thing I'm positive about, is I don't really take this stuff way too seriously and I'm not at all desperate like my AFC days and I'm pretty much comfortable and happy being by myself. My mentality is to just go out there and have fun, no matter of what the results.
Okay heres how it went, definitely not what I expected, but I'm going to try again next week. Your constructive criticism is welcome.

Time : 11:28 a.m. , Location: Campus

I got here like around 11, I was a bit surprise that the whole campus was almost empty. ( I go to a community college.) I went inside the cafeteria and there were a couple of chicks inside, but I was too damn lazy to start a conversation. The boring and empty atmosphere bummed me out. I just sat on the bench the whole time and waited for class to start. A couple of not so good looking chics were checking me out as they passed by. Do you think these chicks would make great target practice? By the way, I live close to the border, so there are a wide variety of women in my area ranging from the conservatives to the really freaky.

Meetings - 0 women

Time : 12:48 p.m. Location: Campus

Okay, my first approach was this cute, asian filipina girl who was sitting near the gazzibo. We talked, about the typical boring stuff like school, her culture etc. but the conversation really took off when I found out that she used to live in the same province my parents did. ( I'm flipino by the way, just incase u guys didn't know.) Then I teased her about us being possible relatives and all that crap in a funny tone. This chic seemed like a freakin golddigger, and way too hyper for me. I told her I've got to go to class and I can tell she like me because she was grabbing my shirt playfully as I left. I didn't bother getting her phone number because I know I'm probably going to see this chick again.
Then I went to class and chatted up these two cute latina women whom I never bothered to talk to but it all went sour when I found out they both were Moms, which completely turned me off. Next.
I later got out of class and whole campus seemed like a freakin wasteland, I guess there weren't much Friday classes.

Meetings - 3 women

Time : 1:00 p.m. Location : Target

Dude, I came to this store hoping there were a couple of cute and descent chicks around. But it turned out there were a bunch of old women not even close to my age. Sure there were a couple of hot milfs, but being a man of morals and values, that's completely not my style. Being an openminded person, I'll try a different time zone for this store next time around.

Meetings - 0 women.

Time : 1:55 p.m. Location: Barnes and Nobles

Same freakin results, I came here hoping I can start a conversation with a sophisticated and fairly attractive woman and all they had was a bunch of old ladies and a couple of geeks studying for their next exams. Man, I'm tired, I'll try this stuff again next week. I'll keep you guys updated.

Meetings - 0 women
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I'm Joe Dirt

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Man, I'm tired, I'll try this stuff again next week.
This isn't stuff like a magic trick or something that you can go out and try. Its about building this into yourself so that its who you are.

Doing stuff with the mindset like this is some magic trick or script you learned won't get you very far unless you're a good actor. It has to be congruent with who you are in order for it to work.
 

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Woahh. Lmao dude your day sounds just like mine. I went to target yesterday and barnes today. I HAVE NEVER SEEN AN HB IN BARNES AND NOBLES. I have seen a few in target though. I think friday/thursday is a good time to roll to target cause the hbs are shopping for clothes for the weekend. Question is, why are you stopping though? till next week?
 

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It's not that I'm stopping, I just feel Friday is just one of those days were it's the best time to meet women due to my busy and hectic lifestyle. I just really don't have time to meet women because I have a lot of deadlines to meet and even if I do, I'm usually exhausted and bummed. Anyone can relate to this?
 

The Nice Guy is Gone

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Originally posted by Roly
It's not that I'm stopping, I just feel Friday is just one of those days were it's the best time to meet women due to my busy and hectic lifestyle. I just really don't have time to meet women because I have a lot of deadlines to meet and even if I do, I'm usually exhausted and bummed. Anyone can relate to this?
You can meet women: On your lunch; while you're on your break; at the grocery store; at a coffee shop if you go to one; Wal-Mart; pretty much wherever you are that there is a girl is where you can meet women.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Originally posted by Roly
I later got out of class and whole campus seemed like a freakin wasteland, I guess there weren't much Friday classes.
Most people don't have class on Fridays in college unless they're hardcore.
 

Roly

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Thanks for the advice Nice Guy, You gave me a knock on the head. It couldn't be more obvious, my lazy nature is getting the best out of me these days. I'm gonna start putting a little more effort. In fact, I think I'm goin to go meet more women tonight.
 

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I heard Fri night is the worst night to meet women because they are all out with family and friends, and bfs.... but screw that, it can't be true. Anyway, on Fri I think you should go to a party or something, like at your college.... I have never been to one so I don't exactly know what to expect, but I guess there are plenty of willing girls there. I can identify with your story so much though. I used to go to the dam-n mall, into bookstores, etc. to meet girls and I never got anywhere. Bookstores were particularly disappointing.... I went in to see if there were any hot girls with INTELLIGENCE, but there were none, no surprise. I think college is about the best place you're gonna find to meet women: classes, parties, random places on campus, etc. As far as everyday places, Wal-Mart has a lot of cute chicks in there, most of them a lot less snobby than those mall bit-ches.
 
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