me and this girl have been exclusive for over a year now, they were big sparks since the biggining, things got so serious that we had even talked about marriage. BUT we were never official bf/gf due that her parents have big issues with me. Apparently she dosent like the idea to either comfront them or cope with them ''hasseling her''.
So time passes, shes been planning to comfront them for the longest time, but either she ends up in a big fight with her mom or bad things come up, (recently her mom got diagnosed with cancer) (her sister is indeed dying, according to doctors she has less than a month of life) so i try to be supportive and dont pressure her, but let her know that relationship is going nowhere and that sometimes i preffer to leave things as they are.
Ive ended up everything a couple of times but she would always look for me in less than a week, calling me , passing trough my house, so everytime i tried to end it she would come back saying that she has to do something for us, but then the same story
happens.
The last time this happened, we agreed that we were only going to be friends, and that i wasnt going to wait for her, if she did something for us and if i was avaiable we would give it a try.
We lasted like that for a while, we visited one of my sisters last week, and my parents were in town so they would probably visit my sister too, so i told her that if my parents called to comfirm the visit we would leave or hide in a room before the got there, she asked me why, i said we were not ready for that...
so 2 days ago she called me and told me she needed to talk to me, that she was thinking about what i had told her about not letting her meet my parents, and that indeed i was right and the relationship was going no where, she said she kind of felt bad because of not meeting my parents, and that it was better if we ended everything, including contacting eachter. according to her she dosnet wanna do this, ''but thinks is the best thing to do'', said that even if she missed me she was not gonna call me or look for me anymore. and thanked me for everything and apologized if she made me loose my time.
Now, even tough i miss her, iam not gonna look for her either, and iam gonna move on, i know its going to be hard but i have to, theres no choice.
But whats your opinion on these, do you all think it really bothered her that much the fact that i didnt let her meet my parents, i dont think it makes sence because if relationship hasnt taken steps forward its only because of her not wanting to comfront her parents.
Ps, iam 21 and shes 22... i know iam not 25 but i would preffer a more mature opinion from you all guys.
thank you in advance
So time passes, shes been planning to comfront them for the longest time, but either she ends up in a big fight with her mom or bad things come up, (recently her mom got diagnosed with cancer) (her sister is indeed dying, according to doctors she has less than a month of life) so i try to be supportive and dont pressure her, but let her know that relationship is going nowhere and that sometimes i preffer to leave things as they are.
Ive ended up everything a couple of times but she would always look for me in less than a week, calling me , passing trough my house, so everytime i tried to end it she would come back saying that she has to do something for us, but then the same story
happens.
The last time this happened, we agreed that we were only going to be friends, and that i wasnt going to wait for her, if she did something for us and if i was avaiable we would give it a try.
We lasted like that for a while, we visited one of my sisters last week, and my parents were in town so they would probably visit my sister too, so i told her that if my parents called to comfirm the visit we would leave or hide in a room before the got there, she asked me why, i said we were not ready for that...
so 2 days ago she called me and told me she needed to talk to me, that she was thinking about what i had told her about not letting her meet my parents, and that indeed i was right and the relationship was going no where, she said she kind of felt bad because of not meeting my parents, and that it was better if we ended everything, including contacting eachter. according to her she dosnet wanna do this, ''but thinks is the best thing to do'', said that even if she missed me she was not gonna call me or look for me anymore. and thanked me for everything and apologized if she made me loose my time.
Now, even tough i miss her, iam not gonna look for her either, and iam gonna move on, i know its going to be hard but i have to, theres no choice.
But whats your opinion on these, do you all think it really bothered her that much the fact that i didnt let her meet my parents, i dont think it makes sence because if relationship hasnt taken steps forward its only because of her not wanting to comfront her parents.
Ps, iam 21 and shes 22... i know iam not 25 but i would preffer a more mature opinion from you all guys.
thank you in advance
