"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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It's Been Over A Week

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I'm DJing this one girl and I haven't seen/spoken to her since the Sunday before last. She gave me the digits and gave some high interest signals (see Women Primer thread -- in short, apologizing, big smiles, etc.).

I went for the number before building rapport. When I last phoned her, I asked her out and she said that she had soccer that night. BUT she did sort of counter-offer in saying that she wanted to talk to me at her work the next time I come in.

Should I phone her # and a) leave a message (not keen on this) or b) tell her that I'm still interested but I've been really busy lately?

Thanks in advance.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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i would just call her and act like you did nothing wrong. If she says anything just say you had a lot of things going on. If a girl cant go a week without talking to you shes got problems.
 

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Thanks for the reply.

She's seeing someone as well, but said that it "wasn't serious" two Saturdays ago.

Maybe it's my ego talking, but I get the impression that I'm the alpha male of us two.
 

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****.

I think I messed up with this girl.

I went tonight and this was the convo

me: Hey, do you have a few minutes?

girl on phone: I'm on the phone (whiny voice)

me: Riight. Okay, I'll let you go. Good luck with your boyfriend.

*walks away*

Did I do the right thing, my fellow DJs? I feel like crap, but I'm sure I'll bounce back soon enough.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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